Occasionally I read or hear stories of people who sound like they’ve taken a tremendous leap of faith. They’ve quit their job from one day to the next, without any idea of how they’ll now go about creating income. They traveled across the country with no idea of where they would stay or how they’d get back. That sort of thing. And they loudly pronounce that they trust the Universe to provide for them as needed.
That sounds good. Sometimes these are indeed very powerful choices. But the thing is, the Universe acts through actual people. If we put ourselves in a position where we can no longer provide for ourselves … we put someone else in the position of having to provide FOR US.
And there’s nothing spiritual about that.
Following our intuition, or our Soul Purpose, or Divine guidance, is NOT an excuse to be irresponsible. I don’t care how drawn we are to a training program, a place, a teacher, or how horrible our day job or even our marriage has become … there is a difference between a leap of faith and spiritual escapism. If other people end up being responsible for the consequences of our choices … then we’ve engaged in spiritual escapism.
When we think of “the Universe” providing for us, we have to remember that WE ARE THE UNIVERSE. And if we don’t provide for ourselves, then other people will have to do so. And while we are all here to help and serve one another, there is a difference between giving assistance – and having the burden of responsibility for someone who refuses to be responsible for themselves.
As adults, empowered by free will, our first and foremost responsibility is to take care of ourselves at the physical level. There are many unfortunate people who don’t have this privilege of personal empowerment – people who are mentally or physically disabled, people who are sick or injured.
But if we are able-bodied and able-minded adults … it’s our first spiritual responsibility to take care of ourselves. Because if we do not, we can’t possibly serve others. And we, in fact, become a burden. We make others responsible for a roof over our heads, food on the table, transportation and other necessities of physical life. Meanwhile, we have our heads stuck so far up in the spiritual realm that we abdicate our human responsibilities.
That’s not “trusting the Universe.” That’s having people who are more responsible than we are pick up our slack.
I learned this lesson the hard way.
I had a friend who’d been spiraling downwards financially for a few years. When he told me he didn’t even have money to buy food, I had him stay with me for a while.
I discovered that a two-year downward spiral is usually no accident. Financial misfortune rarely happens overnight. As it turns out, he didn’t work particularly hard. He was totally comfortable living off my efforts.
It didn’t take me long to realize I wasn’t helping – I was enabling.
These days, should sudden misfortune strike, I would still offer any friend in need my couch or my guest room. But I’d better see them working their tush off sixteen hours a day in order to create income.
Our first responsibility is to BE the Universe and provide for ourselves. This IS the most basic aspect of every Soul’s Purpose. It’s only from this most basic place of empowerment that we can serve others, and step into the experience of our Divinity.