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Limitation and Opinion

How many of your daily choices are based on your perception of other people’s opinion of you? How often are you consciously or unconsciously influenced by that sneaky little inner voice that says: “But what will my husband (or children, parents, friends, co-workers, bosses, clients, or the ever-popular amorphous mass that is ‘people’) think?”

Our perception of other people’s opinions is perhaps the greatest limitation we impose upon ourselves. So many of our life choices – to start a business, to begin, end or continue a relationship, our choice of career and education, what we eat, how we dress – are based on what we think others think.

The problem? We don’t know what other people think. We can’t know.

Why the persistent preoccupation with other people’s opinions? Why does the fear of their disapproval paralyze us, keep us from standing in our Truth and pursuing our purpose and passion? Why would our parents’ perceived opinion be enough to keep us in a bad marriage? Why would our friends’ perceived concerns keep us in a Soul-sucking job? Why do we work so hard to arrange our lives to gain approval from others? Especially when the “others” are often just a vague concept of societal norms?

Why do we base so many of our choices on our perception of others’ opinions?

I think the answer is simple. We are interdependent on each other for survival.

If no-one thinks that we are valuable enough to hire – for something, anything – we will lose our homes and starve. That’s probably the most basic fear, the survival instinct that causes us to pause and consider the opinions of others before we make a choice. Beyond that, we fear that we will not be loved, liked, or have no community.

All of this fear is deeply rooted in humanity’s history. Once upon a time, we lived in tiny tribes and villages where being accepted was necessary to our survival. Being different meant ostracism and even death. No wonder, then, that most of us are uncomfortable standing out from the crowd.

Society has evolved, of course. Thanks to the Internet, we now have access to each other by the millions. No matter how different or weird we are (remember, this is a professional psychic talking!), there are people just like us “out there” that we can serve and connect with via social media, discussion forums, blogs, and other online media. But our preoccupation with each others’ opinion persists and continues to shape our choices.

None of us are immune to this phenomenon, by the way. I’m definitely not! Sure, we say things like: “Those that matter don’t mind, and those that mind don’t matter.” But we care what other people think. To this day, our survival depends on it.

Of course, there’s another way to live. It takes courage, but it is also the path to abundance.

We cannot know the opinion of others. But we can know ourselves – what we want, what we love, what expresses our Being. We are abundant in self-knowledge … or at least, we can become abundant in self-knowledge, given a little practice! But we will never, ever know what others think.

These are the two paths available to us, then. We can base our choices on self-knowledge, which is abundantly available to us. Or we can base our choices on other people’s opinions, which we will always, always lack.

Given that our consequences always reflect the energy of our choice, the path to abundance can only be grounded in self-knowledge and authentic self-expression – because that’s what’s abundantly available to us at all times. If we just stop at the moment of choice and ask ourselves whether we are truly expressing who we are, or simply trying to please someone else, new abundance opens up to us.

Here’s a fun little exercise to try. If you could wipe your slate clean, walk out of your life as it is right now, wipe out everyone’s memory of you, and re-create your life from scratch with a magical wand to be ANYTHING you want … what would it be? Write it out. Let you imagination run wild.

How much of your magical life is present in your current reality? And whose perceived opinions are you using as an excuse to not live exactly how you want?

At the end of the day, only we stand between ourselves and our authentic abundance!

Blessings,
Andrea

TLC For Your Vibrational State

Here’s what determines absolutely EVERYTHING present in your life. Every person, every event, every circumstance is the result of your vibrational state of Being.

Your vibrational state of Being is the energetic totality of who you are. It is comprised of your physical body’s energy, the energy of your thoughts and emotions, and the energetic properties of your Soul itself.

Our vibrational state is a precious thing. It determines EVERYTHING we experience! And it is very much subject to our free will.

How cool is that?

Unfortunately, we don’t treat our own vibrational state of Being with a whole lot of love and respect. Most of us just let our vibrational state happen unconsciously. We let the state of our physical body, our emotions and thoughts be massively affected by our environment. We say what we don’t mean. We do what isn’t aligned to our Soul purpose, or what we really want. We surround ourselves with people that don’t support the Truth of who we are. As a result, our vibrational state of Being becomes kind of a mess.

Our thoughts vibrate one energetic statement while our Soul is vibrationally in a completely different place. Our emotional energy fluctuates like crazy, in reaction to our environment. And our actions may be in complete misalignment to all of the above.

How can we manifest anything at all when our vibrational state is all over the map?

What if we took better care of our vibrational state?

Look around whatever room you’re sitting in. Does your environment support who you want to be?

Think about all that you did today. Were your actions an authentic expression of what you want to create in your life?

When you express yourself, are your words based on your personal Truth, or on other people’s perceived opinions?

That sounds like an awful lot of applied consciousness, doesn’t it?

But here’s the thing. The more we bring our vibrational state of Being into alignment within itself, the easier life gets. We attract more abundance. We align to our purpose. We stand in our Truth. Instead of twisting ourselves into what we think the world wants us to be, we just drop all that effort and do our Beingness.

When we align our vibrational state of Being, our Soul’s Divinity IS our thoughts, which gives rise to emotion, which moves us into action and self-expression. That sounds simplistic, I know. But why assume that creating a life of abundance and joy has to be complicated?

So where do we start? With small acts of “vibrational hygiene”!

Look around your environment. Is there anything that needs to be thrown out, rearranged, or reorganized so that your room becomes more of an expression of who you are? Do it! Stop reading for a second and just do it, right now.

As you go through your day, ask yourself: “Is this choice an expression of who I truly am?” So often, we don’t think of what we order for lunch or what we wear or what we watch on television as significant choices. But ALL of our choices either create alignment within our vibrational state, or create a misalignment. No choice is insignificant.

You are an energetic Being, through and through. You KNOW how to come into alignment within yourself, how to bring your Soul, your thoughts and emotions, your words and your actions into vibrational integrity.

Give your vibrational state a little tender, loving care and see what happens!

Blessings,
Andrea

If it walks like a duck …

You’ve heard the saying: “If it walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck … it’s a duck!” In other words, some things are obvious.

The beauty of this third-dimensional experience we’re all having as spiritual Beings is that … well, the physical world is pretty darn obvious. What shows up in our experience, shows up. It is what it is. Our life circumstances are the big fat mirror of who we are. All our ducks are lined up in that mirror. We can do two things with those ducks.

1. We can change the ducks – perhaps turn them into swans, or roses, or get rid of them altogether.

2. We can accept the ducks as they are.

BOTH are completely valid strategies for creating change!

We can actively create new circumstances. This is what I define as living creatively. We decide what we want our life circumstances to be, and we begin the journey of coming into vibrational alignment with what we want. We decide to increase our income, and come into vibrational alignment with the money we want. We decide to manifest a relationship, and come into vibrational alignment with the love we want to experience. Manifestation occurs … and we do it again.

We can also direct our change efforts inward. We can shift our thoughts and emotions to be accepting – perhaps even happy! – with the circumstances that present themselves. This is what I define as living reactively. We change our inner vibrational landscape to match our current set of circumstances. In a financial pinch, we adjust our habits, thoughts and emotions to live happily on a more stringent budget. We shift our expectations so that we’ll be truly satisfied within a current relationship. We do what we have to in order to stay at our current job. Because we’ve shifted who we are, new circumstances will invariably arise … and we do it again.

In BOTH operating modes, change is the constant. Whether we live creatively or reactively … we are constantly shifting and changing and experiencing ourselves in a new way.

Personally, I’m a fan of creative living. To me, my circumstances are the silly putty that I play with, to stretch, examine, alter, like a canvas of self-expression. In order to do so, I have to consciously shift the vibrations of my intentions, thoughts, emotions and actions. In doing so, my circumstances shift and change. It’s fun, it’s powerful, and it’s what I’ve chosen to live and teach.

But living reactively does the same thing! Our inner world becomes the canvas of self-expression in which we shift the vibration of our intentions, thoughts, emotions and actions to accommodate our circumstances … and in doing so, our circumstances still change. Our very efforts to “feel better” about our circumstances STILL shift our vibrational state, which STILL changes our circumstances, although we have the perception of that change happening “to” us.

Is one way better than the other? I don’t think so. Both require the same amount of effort. Both will create the same level of change. It’s simply a matter of preference.

Problems arise when we start arguing that a duck is, in fact, not a duck at all. Instead of either changing our circumstances OR changing ourselves to accommodate our circumstances, we pretend that the circumstance doesn’t exist, or that the duck is a swan, or a tree. We pretend that we’re not in a financial crisis. We pretend that our relationship is awesome when it’s not. We pretend that the job we loathe is fulfilling. We pretend to feel and think one way, when deep down we’re seething with dissatisfaction and resentment.

The duck remains a duck, but what we end up creating is struggle … not change.

Look in the mirror and acknowledge the ducks. Pick a duck, and pick a strategy: Create something different OR create an internal vibrational match for that particular duck. Both strategies are equally valid. Whichever you pick, you’re going to have to do it again shortly, because either strategy creates change.

Either way, if it walks and quacks like a duck, it is a duck. Let’s not argue with it.

Blessings,
Andrea

Our Infinitely Forgiving Universe

Yesterday, I was gratefully contemplating all the different mistakes I’ve made this year. Remarkably, all the different ways I’ve screwed up in 2010 have not had one bit of negative impact on my life overall.

We are so blessed to live in an infinitely forgiving Universe.

Every single moment offers us the opportunity to make a new choice, which creates new consequences. Every moment is filled with the potential to create what we desire. And when we make a choice that creates something other than what we want … well, the moment we realize our mistake, we are blessed with the opportunity to correct ourselves.

(Let me define “mistake” here: A choice that does not create what we intended. Mistakes are an entirely subjective phenomenon.)

We are here, after all, to learn through experiencing ourselves in the consequences of our choices. Nothing – not our intuition, not intelligent planning, nor expert advice – can ever be an adequate substitute for experiencing what we’ve created through free will.

The one thing of which we never need be afraid is making a mistake. Everything is fixable. In fact, creating what we do NOT want is usually the doorway to successfully manifesting astonishing results. Making a wrong choice is never a bad idea. Fabulous accomplishment usually lies just on the other side.

There are only two ways we can shoot ourselves in the foot in this infinitely forgiving Universe.

The first is inaction. The paralysis, the fear of making a mistake, prevents us from experiencing ourselves in new circumstances because we are unwilling to take new action. Our self-knowledge cannot expand if we continue to make choices within the same limited repertoire. We remain where we are, creating pretty much the same results as always.

The second way we can sabotage ourselves is to not acknowledge when we’ve made a mistake.

How long do we keep going before acknowledging that our choices are creating something other than what we want? How long before we’re willing to admit to ourselves (and others!) that we’ve just discovered a great way NOT to create our intended outcome?

How long before we leverage the forgiveness of the Universe, with its infinite patience and responsiveness, and make new choices?

Think about driving your car. You feel as if you’re simply holding on to the steering wheel, but if you were to let go, your car would veer off the road pretty quickly. What your hands are really doing on the wheel is executing a rapid series of minute course-corrections. The end result? It looks like you’re smoothly traveling along a straight road towards your destination. In reality, however, you are constantly veering a little to the left or the right, constantly correcting your path.

The trick to creating the life you want is not a series of flawless choices.

The trick to creating the life you want is to recognize and acknowledge as quickly as possible when your choices are veering away from your intentions … and course correcting by making new choices.

New choices are available to you now.

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Like I said, it’s an infinitely forgiving Universe.

Isn’t it wonderful?

Many blessings to you and yours this holiday season,

Andrea

You Already Know Your Next Step

I come across a remarkable number of people who swear they have “no idea” how to start moving towards their dream of making an abundant income doing what fulfills them. They tell me they have trouble tuning into inner guidance, that they lack inspiration, that they have energetic blocks and restrictions preventing them from moving forward. All of that may be true.

But none of that has to prevent us from taking our next step forward.

Here’s what I ask when someone tells me they are thoroughly stuck and don’t know what to do: “Well, what might the smallest, most obvious, easiest action be that you can take today that will just get you moving into the general direction of what you want?”

Astonishingly, the same person who just told me they had “no idea” now comes up with a whole bunch of possible actions!

It’s not that we don’t know our next step. It’s just that we’re not willing to take it without also having the twenty-step, perfect plan towards a six-figure income already worked out and sitting in our back pocket. Preferably that perfect plan also comes with a 100% satisfaction guarantee from the Universe.

None of know “exactly how” to get to the big dream, the gigantic vision, the best version of our future life. We’re all making it up as we go along, one “next step” at a time.

Are you holding back from taking the next step on your path, because you don’t know the steps that come afterwards?

Blessings,
Andrea

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