Disallowing Negativity

Posted on July 3, 2007
Filed Under Soul Realignment, Spiritual Development |

We all come into contact with negative people and situations in our lives. It is unavoidable. And running up against negativity in our lives serves to show us the parts of ourselves that we have yet to examine. It challenges us to be more centered, more unattached, and more mindful. The overbearing boss, the guy that cuts us off in rush-hour traffic, the inconsiderate in-laws, the opportunistic acquaintances - all can serve us to learn how to maintain our inner peace.
From time to time, we may feel besieged by these people. We may feel like there is a war going on. We feel that we have to do battle against the negative influences in our world. We have to fight to maintain our peace of mind. We want to defend ourselves - mentally, emotionally, energetically - when we encounter toxic situations or people.
However, this “battle mentality” gives negativity more power. By fighting negativity, we give it energy. We give it more influence in our lives. We judge it, we condemn it, we struggle against it. We may even feel a possibility that it is stronger than we are.

If you find yourself bracing yourself as if you are about to go into battle, shift your attitude to one of “disallowing.” This has got to be one of my favorite words right now! Disallowing acknowledges the existence of negative energy. We see that it is there, and that is governs certain people or situations. But we do not judge it as bad, distracting, harmful, or something to fight against. And the we make a choice - to disallow this negativity to create a reaction within us. We do not engage with it. Anger or guilt or blame may be a part of someone else’s story. But we can disallow it from being a part of our own. We see it in the world, and we say consciously to ourselves “I will not partake of this. This will not shape my experience.”

You have the power to make that choice. Observe what is happening around you, and choose what you will allow into your own experience. Acknowledge the rest, but do not engage with it. Choose to be affected by the joy, encouragement, and support of those around you. Disallow their pessimism, complaining, or anger from playing a part within your experience. In this way, you support the positive energies in your environment. And, after a while, the negativity will fade. It is not fueled in your life, and so there is nothing to support and nurture it.

The next time you encounter negative energies in your every day situations - disallow them in your own life!

Blessings,
Andrea