There are two reasons we create change in our lives. One reason is to create a life we want. The other reason is to get away from the life we don’t want anymore. And those are two very different reasons!

When we make changes towards a life we want, we are acting as Creators. We have at least a general idea of what we desire, and now through our actions, we are opening up to allowing our desires to manifest themselves in our lives. But we began the process by deciding on what we wanted.

Sometimes, however, the life we’ve already created for ourselves isn’t so pleasant. Sometimes it can get downright painful. And so we create change and movement, not towards anything in particular, but merely away from where we are right now. But in this situation, we are not acting as Creator – we are reacting. This is a far less powerful position to be in. When we create change through reaction, we are letting external circumstances dictate our direction. Instead of going within, deciding what we want, and then moving towards it, we look outside of ourselves, see what we do not want, and move away from it as fast as we can!

When life gets painful, of course we want to move away from the pain. But even in our pain, we can gather the bits and pieces of ourselves, and focus on creating a desired outcome. We don’t have to fix everything right away, or find all the answers, or make all the decisions. For now, the desired outcome can be to simply be in a little less pain. But we can make a conscious choice about what that first step towards healing will be. What would the next available step looks like that would make us feel a little better? Perhaps it’s as small as taking a bubble bath, or going for a walk. Perhaps it’s a phone call to a friend. If we are in great pain and go inward and ask ourselves “what shall I do with my life?” we will invariably encounter confusion and turmoil. Those decisions are not available to us in that state. But we can decide on the next step that will create less pain in our life.
Once we have created just a little less pain, we can make another conscious decision. What next available step would create a situation in which there is even less pain? Perhaps that means taking a few days off. Perhaps it means investigating a possible new job, or organizing our finances. But after this step, we are even more resourceful, and now we can take yet another step. And after we do this a few times, our next desired outcome may become inner peace. Reaching that state may take three steps, or twenty … but we can create it, one step at a time.

Manifesting our desires doesn’t mean we have to have a grand master plan for the next ten years. Sometimes it means just making a decision around what we can do for ourselves that day. You are acting as conscious Creator, even if the decisions are small. Sometimes, small decisions are all we are capable of. That does not lessen their power, if they are made consciously. But many, many small, conscious decisions add up to big changes. One day, you realize that, one small decision at a time, you created the life you’ve always wanted.

Blessings,
Andrea