There is a truly terrible, completely self-defeating question that we often ask ourselves when we are stuck.
And that question is “Why?”
This question can take a few different forms:
“Why am I stuck?”
“Why am I not taking action?”
“What’s in my way?”
“Why can’t I see my path clearly before me?”
“What’s stopping me from doing this?”
These questions inevitably focus us on THE PROBLEM. And since, through the very nature of this question, we’ve told ourselves that there IS, indeed, a problem, our mind will now take it upon itself to go and find us the problem.
Even if there was no problem at all.
If you ask yourself “why” you’re stuck, then your mind is hard-wired to come up with a “reason” for the stuck-ness. And because your mind is also very invested in being right, your reason for being stuck will sound extremely valid and important.
We might come up with issues from our childhood.
We might come up with past-life events that are blocking us today.
We might come up with problems in our relationships, our business, our health.
Whatever we come up with … we will invariably now address the problem, since it is obviously keeping us stuck.
The thing is … now we’re still stuck, but feeling productive because we’ve given ourselves a problem to solve.
In other words, we’ve given ourselves the best, most reasonable excuse in the world to stay exactly where we are. We’ve given ourselves a problem to solve before we can move forward. Convenient, right?
All because we asked ourselves “why.”
The real answer is actually always the same.
We’re stuck because we are not congruent to what we really want. If we’re doing what we really want (vs. what we think we should want, or what we think we can have, or what we think would please others, etc.) we don’t have issues with stuckness or indecision or inaction.
What do you really want? What do you want so badly that it will get you off the couch, out of your comfort zone, and into the unknown?
To your infinite abundance,