The WORST Question To Ask When You Are Stuck

There is a truly terrible, completely self-defeating question that we often ask ourselves when we are stuck.

And that question is “Why?”

This question can take a few different forms:

“Why am I stuck?”
“Why am I not taking action?”
“What’s in my way?”
“Why can’t I see my path clearly before me?”
“What’s stopping me from doing this?”

These questions inevitably focus us on THE PROBLEM.  And since, through the very nature of this question, we’ve told ourselves that there IS, indeed, a problem, our mind will now take it upon itself to go and find us the problem.

Even if there was no problem at all.

If you ask yourself “why” you’re stuck, then your mind is hard-wired to come up with a “reason” for the stuck-ness.  And because your mind is also very invested in being right, your reason for being stuck will sound extremely valid and important.

We might come up with issues from our childhood.
We might come up with past-life events that are blocking us today.
We might come up with problems in our relationships, our business, our health.

Whatever we come up with … we will invariably now address the problem, since it is obviously keeping us stuck.

The thing is … now we’re still stuck, but feeling productive because we’ve given ourselves a problem to solve.

In other words, we’ve given ourselves the best, most reasonable excuse in the world to stay exactly where we are.  We’ve given ourselves a problem to solve before we can move forward.  Convenient, right?

All because we asked ourselves “why.”

The real answer is actually always the same.

We’re stuck because we are not congruent to what we really want.  If we’re doing what we really want (vs. what we think we should want, or what we think we can have, or what we think would please others, etc.) we don’t have issues with stuckness or indecision or inaction.

What do you really want?  What do you want so badly that it will get you off the couch, out of your comfort zone, and into the unknown?

To your infinite abundance,
Andrrea Hess

If You Dream It, Can You REALLY Do It?

Our culture has become very attached to the idea that our dreams will come true, if we’re willing to work hard and pursue them.  But obviously not everyone is going to become the next Britney Spears, Angelina Jolie, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Donald Trump, Anthony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, or Oprah.

You may have heard that if you dream it, you can do it.

Then why does the pursuit of their dreams leave so many people struggling?  Is it just a matter or perseverance, of working harder, or putting in even more time, more effort?

I’ve frequently said that when our Soul inspires us with a desire, that this desire MUST be achievable.  Our Soul will NOT dangle an unattainable carrot in front of us!

But that doesn’t mean that all of our desires are attainable!  A great many of our desires have a very different origin, and they are not MEANT for us to attain.  They are most definitely of value … but not the way we think.

Many of our desires are not Soul-inspired at all.  Many of our desires are inspired by a deep egoic need, arising from old wounds held at the level of the subconscious.  Our desires may come from a need for recognition, a need for love, a need for acknowledgement, a need for security, a need to be deserving.

There IS value in these desires.  These desires don’t show us our Soul’s purpose or Divine self-expression.  Desires that arise from a wounded ego show us where we need to HEAL.

A desire that arises out of need can only reinforce that need.  A desire that comes from a wounded ego will forever have us chasing after that elusive SOMEthing that we, deep down, feel that we are lacking.  Of course, this process serves us.  Eventually, this need and lack within us becomes so reinforced that we MUST address it, and work on our self-healing.

Desire inspired by the Soul, on the other hand, is simply about our Soul wanting to experience itself.  Our Soul doesn’t want to be more than it is, or be different, or be special.  Our Soul already knows that it is complete and perfect.  Our Soul isn’t needy.  It is simply showing us what it would mean to be our Selves, what it would mean for our Divinity to be expressed into our humanity.

Serious problems arise when we take desire based on egoic need and wounding, and confuse them with our Soul Purpose.  If we’re lucky, we eventually figure out the difference … but often not until we’ve spent years of effort and money chasing our healing, and thinking we were trying to express our Divine Gifts.

BOTH paths are intertwined – doing our Soul Purpose is not possible without also engaging in our self-healing.  But the two paths can also become hopelessly muddy in their enmeshment.  We can end up so confused between these two types of desires that we stall our progress.  We don’t heal, and we don’t do our Purpose, and we experience nothing but lack.

Knowing the difference between which desire is inspired by the ego’s need for healing, and which desire is inspired by the Soul’s authentic self-expression is KEY to creating BOTH wholeness and abundance.

So join me for my new training on Wednesday, January 30th at 4 p.m. Pacific / 7 p.m. Eastern called “Self-Healing On Your Path Into Purpose.”  You can register here.

To your infinite, Soul-inspired abundance,
Andrrea Hess

2013: Karmic Polarity

Well, we’re all still here.  There was no apocalypse, no fiery meteors showered the Earth, no cataclysmic events eradicated humanity.  My personal theory remains that the Mayans got tired of chiseling, and went about inventing the Margarita instead.

Can you imagine what would have happened if we had been absolutely certain, without a shadow of a doubt, that the world was going to end on a lovely Friday in December?

I doubt most of us would have shown up to work for the last six months.  We would have flocked to beaches and mountains and beautiful places on our planet, spent whatever money was in our savings accounts, and indulged in a lot of unhealthy food.  We would have surrounded ourselves with the people we truly want to be with, and we would have done only what we really wanted to do.

If the end of the world were guaranteed, our choices would have no consequences.  Free of the fear of what other people think, free of the responsibilities of paying our mortgage and our credit card bills, many of us would finally allow ourselves to do what is truly our Soul’s authentic self-expression.

Except, of course, our society would also have come to a screeching halt.  No-one would show up to work, which means our grocery stores would empty, restaurants would close, garbage would collect in the streets, and the rules of our society would disintegrate into chaos.

Karma keeps us from self-destruction.  But karma can also keep us in limitation.  It all depends on how you handle the system of karma.

We can make choices to avoid unwanted consequences.

We can make choices to create desired consequences.

Both sets of choices can look exactly the same from the outside – but the intent behind these choices is vastly different, and so the consequences are also vastly different.

We can choose to go to work every day because we don’t want to lose our home, because we don’t want our parents to think we’re a slacker, because we don’t want to disappoint our children or our spouse.

In our own business, we can make choices that keep us from losing clients, we can write so we don’t lose people from our list, we can water down our marketing message so that we don’t piss people off.

On the other hand, we can choose to go to work every day because we want to create the home of our dreams, because we feel fulfilled as we express our brilliance, because we want our children to live abundantly, because we want to support our spouse.

We can choose to market ourselves authentically in order to attract our ideal clients, we can choose to make offers and structure our business so that we have the most fun while we do our Soul’s purpose.

One set of choices creates a prison of our own making.

The other set of choices creates heaven on earth.

From the outside, they look exactly the same.

Imagine, for a moment, that you only have a few days left on this planet.  What would you immediately stop doing?  And why?

What choices in life are you currently making only because you fear negative consequences?  What about choices in your business?  What are you creating from fear?

What choices would you immediately start making if you only had a few days left in this human form?  What choices would you make in your business if you knew that you would not fail?

What would you create from love – love for your Soul’s self-expression within this human form?

Choices made from fear create more fear.  Choices made from love create more love.  The polarity between the two is becoming more and more apparent as we move into 2013.  And whether we create from fear or love – that is completely up to us!

Blessings,
Andrrea

What’s Standing In The Way Of Your Powerful Marketing?


One of the issues I keep hearing about from clients is difficulties with really “putting themselves out there” in a powerful way.  Whether it’s writing ezine articles, a free report, or creating any other marketing content … they tell me that they’re having trouble finding their authentic voice.  They default to surfing other people’s sites for inspiration, or they follow someone else’s method for creating content.

The end result?  Content that’s just not “them.”  And so they scrap what they’ve worked on, only to regroup, start over, and run into the same issue a week later.

Here’s the thing:  If we’re going to market ourselves authentically, we have to dive into our Truth.  We have to quest within ourselves and get very real and honest about what we really think and how we really feel.  Powerful marketing means baring our hearts and Souls in order to serve others.

Here’s the problem.

Diving into our truth, getting very real and honest with ourselves … that’s not a selective process.

If we’re going to get real with ourselves and dig into our authentic thoughts and feelings … we might end up uncovering more Truth than we bargained for.

See, when we’re doing our Soul Purpose, there’s no way to separate ourselves from our business.  There is no “work” and “life” … there is just you, as a whole Being.

And if there’s a Truth you’re not willing to look at in life, you’re going to get stuck in your marketing.

If you’re in a relationship you deep down know is not aligned to you, if there’s a health issue you’re unwilling to admit to yourself, if there’s a profound but unacknowledged issue in your parenting … these things can all get you stuck in your marketing.

I’m not talking about the things you KNOW you need to address in your life.  You might know you need to leave your day job.  You might know that you need to treat your physical body differently.  You’ve already looked at and acknowledged those Truths, even though you may be lagging behind a bit on taking action.

If you’re conscious of an issue, it can no longer hold you back.

No, I’m talking about the deep, dark Truths that would present a major inconvenience and necessitate huge change if you DARED acknowledge them.

If you can’t access your Truth when you’re trying to write a blog post, there’s a reason.  The reason if probably not pretty.  And the reason is definitely NOT that you’re just “bad at marketing.”  Marketing, after all, is just serving the people you are called to serve, so that they know you exist.  If you have a deep desire to serve, an excellent marketer resides somewhere within you!  But in order to find your authentic voice in a report or article or video or podcast, you have to be willing to find your authenticity in ALL areas of your life.

But that’s why the entrepreneurial journey is the greatest path of spiritual and personal development I know.  How we do one thing is how we do everything.

What’s the scariest Truth you could uncover in your life?  What’s the most inconvenient life change you could imagine?  What if THIS is the key to your abundant, purposeful business?

What do you think?  Leave a comment and share!

Blessings,
Andrrea

Withholding Your Own Abundance?

Have you ever had this experience?

You have a fantastic, creatively inspired idea.  The idea is for a book, a new program, a new way of marketing yourself, an article, or maybe a whole new business direction.  The inspiration strikes you in the shower, while driving, while doing the dishes.  And you are excited by this idea!

The idea doesn’t let you go over time, either.  It arises again and again in those moments when you’re doing something mindless, like exercising or going for a walk or cleaning the house.  It’s always there, in the back of your mind.

The idea goes on your list of things to do … someday …

…. after you’ve done your taxes.
…. after you’ve answered your emails.
…. after you’ve finished your Christmas shopping.
…. after you’ve cleaned the house.
…. after the kids start school.
…. after you’ve finished updating the copy for your website.

In other words … never.

Let’s face it.  Someday never comes!

What you’re really doing is withholding.  You are not allowing your Soul its creative self-expression!  Because, let’s face it, those inspirations come straight from your Higher Self and point you towards your purpose!

And yes, these inspirations never come at a convenient time.

You already have too much to do.  You had a plan for the day, the week, the month … and that plan did not include a creative project!  Your plan didn’t include writing a book, or creating a whole new website.

And so you tell yourself that you’re going to get through “everything” that’s already on your plate … and THEN you’ll give yourself the gift of creative self-expression.

What you’re really doing is telling the Universe that you’re willing to put your Soul’s self-expression last.  You’re willing to wait on your Soul Purpose.  You’re more willing to clean the house and answer your emails than you’re willing to express your Divinity.

How can you expect to create a life of abundance when you’re not willing to trust that inspiration comes at the perfect time?  How can you expect abundance when you’re not willing to give yourself the gift of the time and energy it takes to DO your Divinity?

Trust.

Trust that when inspiration comes, and you take action on it, there will still be time to do everything that “needs” to get done.

Trust that following your Soul’s plan is going to create more abundance and be more productive for you than following your mind’s plan.

Your Soul has inspired you now.  Therefore, the inspiration is meant for NOW.

Don’t argue with the wisdom of your Soul.

Blessings,
Andrrea

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