I’m not being melodramatic with the title of this article. If you’re going to create a new, more abundant reality for yourself, the current “you” is going to have to die. Not all of the current “you” … but perhaps, if the reality you want is very different from the reality you’ve created so far, most of the current “you” is going to have to go!
We get so focused on the end result of the transformation we want to create. It sounds so inspiring, so uplifting, to think that we can transform ourselves and therefore manifest new circumstances. And it’s true.
But what about the “you” that is, right now?
Before rebirth, there is a death. A caterpillar breaks down to mush in its chrysalis before it emerges as a butterfly.
And it might hurt a little. It might hurt a lot.
The vibrational frequencies that make up your body, your emotions, your thoughts … they cannot remain the same. Sometimes, all those vibrational frequencies have to turn to mush before you can emerge, hopefully as a more congruent expression of your Divinity.
This IS what we’ve been working towards in the spiritual development community. We’ve gained enough consciousness to know that we are not only our bodies or our egos. Conscious awareness that we are Spirit is necessary if we’re going to let the vibrational state of our bodies and minds fall apart, to be resurrected in greater alignment to our true nature.
In real life, it looks like doing lots of scary, unfamiliar things. Some of them aren’t particularly dramatic. Your “scary and unfamiliar” may be perfectly ordinary to others.
You might have to send out a regular email newsletter. Maybe you have to have a few sales conversations. Maybe you need to utter the words “I charge three thousand dollars a month.” Or maybe you just need to let your Facebook peeps know that you have a new website.
None of those things need be dramatic or extraordinary. None of them are “hard.” But if they are the trigger to your transformation, doing them will make you feel like you might die. And you’ll be embarrassed to admit this, because it seems so silly.
At several points in our entrepreneurial lives, we’re going to feel overcome by a fear of death. Sometimes the fear is so severe that we don’t even allow ourselves to feel it. Instead, we procrastinate, we distract ourselves, we have another piece of cake or another glass of wine or get on the phone with a friend. Or heck, we crack open another information product. The end result is the same: We don’t do the things that will create the income we want.
For some of us, the fear doesn’t become debilitating until we’ve established our business, and then our income plateaus. We stall out. Or we manifest other circumstances that justify our lack of financial growth.
Sometimes, the need for death within your own transformational process arises when you are just starting your entrepreneurial path. For some, the fear doesn’t even allow you to get started. You just can’t seem to get your marketing going. You can’t find your target market, your niche. Maybe you can’t even manage to get your website up and running. You hear phrases like “Feel the fear and do it anyway” and nod, and agree. But you can’t move forward.
I’ll let you in on a secret. Business coaches complain about clients like you. “I tell them what to do but they just don’t DO it.” You’re written off as a mere wantrepreneur, someone who just doesn’t want it bad enough. “They just don’t want to do the work” is the general perspective on clients who can’t seem to move into action, no matter how big their financial investment.
It’s just not true.
If you’re investing in your growth, if you’re studying entrepreneurship, if you haven’t yet resigned yourself to staying in a J.O.B. for the rest of your life … you’re willing to do the work.
But are you willing to die? At least a little bit? Maybe a lot?
Will you let everything you know about yourself, about the world, about your relationships, turn into murky, gooey pudding without knowing how that mushy mess will reassemble itself? Will you surrender into new action without any assurance that you will not fail?
Will you let your Soul lead you into the death of who you are right now?
To your infinite abundance,