If money were a person, most of us would be emotionally abusing that person.
Imagine telling a person: “I love having you around. I’m so happy to see you. Except … you’re not enough. I need you for my survival, but I wish you didn’t exist. I wish I never had to think about you again. I want you to be there for me. But it’s so much work just to keep you around. And you’re not around nearly enough. You know what? I’m just going to ignore you for a while. You’re just a concept, anyway. Go away. But wait … I need you. I want you.”
This just about sums up most people’s relationship with money. Dysfunctional, right?
Is it any surprise that money is sometimes reluctant to show up?
If you were your money, would you want to spend time with you?
Personally, I love money. If I say this a little too enthusiastically amongst people who don’t know me very well, I raise a few eyebrows. But it’s true. I love money.
And I suggest you love it, too. Here’s all the reasons I love money – feel free to borrow them if you’re having a hard time wrestling your way towards a loving relationship with money:
1. Money tells us the truth. We don’t lie with our wallets. How you spend your money tells the true story of what you value and what’s important to you.
If you’re selling a product or service, the most (and sometimes only!) honest feedback people will give you is with their money. Sure, they can tell you they’re interested, that what you do is awesome, that you’re talented, that they think your business will be successful, that they love what you do … but are they paying you?
2. Money is the perfect feedback system. If you are truly growing and expanding – as a Divine AND human being – then your bank account will grow and expand. If your income isn’t changing, then all the navel-gazing, belief-shifting, energy clearing, meditating, studying and internal work you’re doing isn’t actually translating into CHANGE. Your income will tell you in black and white if you’re just doing new versions of the same thing over and over again.
3. Money is a spiritual teacher. The more we live our Divinity, the more abundance we experience. Our Divine nature is inherently abundant. When we express our Divinity into our humanity, abundance is the inevitable outcome. Money will tell you whether you’re actually DOING more of your Soul’s Purpose in your human experience.
4. Money brings up all of our “stuff.” You want to experience the greatest spiritual and personal development seminar in the world? Start asking people to pay you for the work you are most passionate about. Every insecurity, every negative belief, every disowned aspect of your Self will show up so that you can address it. And every time you seek to increase your income, a new layer of “stuff” will come up. That’s why most people only dream of being millionaires instead of actually going out and creating seven-figure businesses. There is no place to hide when you ask people to invest in your purposeful work.
5. Money supports our authentic self-expression. Money lets us be who we are, make the choices we want to make, create the environment we want, hire support as needed, and experience new adventures, surroundings, and people.
6. Money buys happiness. Oh yes, it does!!! My daughter loves her iPod so much that she named it and sleeps with it every night. Money made that happen. Now … money doesn’t GUARANTEE happiness. And money isn’t the ONLY thing that makes us happy. You can have a boat load of money and be miserable. But I bet that a good many of your most recent happy experiences were made possible by money. Even if you’re just snuggling with loved ones on the couch, that couch was made possible by money. So let’s just admit it. Money makes us happy.
7. Money is practical. Occasionally, I get emails from people who tell me that they want nothing to do with money, and that the world should go back to bartering as a means of value exchange. Personally, I don’t want to get paid in chickens. I’m not against bartering arrangements by any means … but I’m very appreciative of money as a highly efficient and alchemical medium of value exchange. Plus, I’m fairly sure it’s here to stay.
Come on … don’t you love money? Watch this video for two very practical exercises you can do to restore your loving relationship with money!
To your infinite abundance,
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