If money were a person, most of us would be emotionally abusing that person.
Imagine telling a person: “I love having you around. I’m so happy to see you. Except … you’re not enough. I need you for my survival, but I wish you didn’t exist. I wish I never had to think about you again. I want you to be there for me. But it’s so much work just to keep you around. And you’re not around nearly enough. You know what? I’m just going to ignore you for a while. You’re just a concept, anyway. Go away. But wait … I need you. I want you.”
This just about sums up most people’s relationship with money. Dysfunctional, right?
Is it any surprise that money is sometimes reluctant to show up?
If you were your money, would you want to spend time with you?
Personally, I love money. If I say this a little too enthusiastically amongst people who don’t know me very well, I raise a few eyebrows. But it’s true. I love money.
And I suggest you love it, too. Here’s all the reasons I love money – feel free to borrow them if you’re having a hard time wrestling your way towards a loving relationship with money:
1. Money tells us the truth. We don’t lie with our wallets. How you spend your money tells the true story of what you value and what’s important to you.
If you’re selling a product or service, the most (and sometimes only!) honest feedback people will give you is with their money. Sure, they can tell you they’re interested, that what you do is awesome, that you’re talented, that they think your business will be successful, that they love what you do … but are they paying you?
2. Money is the perfect feedback system. If you are truly growing and expanding – as a Divine AND human being – then your bank account will grow and expand. If your income isn’t changing, then all the navel-gazing, belief-shifting, energy clearing, meditating, studying and internal work you’re doing isn’t actually translating into CHANGE. Your income will tell you in black and white if you’re just doing new versions of the same thing over and over again.
3. Money is a spiritual teacher. The more we live our Divinity, the more abundance we experience. Our Divine nature is inherently abundant. When we express our Divinity into our humanity, abundance is the inevitable outcome. Money will tell you whether you’re actually DOING more of your Soul’s Purpose in your human experience.
4. Money brings up all of our “stuff.” You want to experience the greatest spiritual and personal development seminar in the world? Start asking people to pay you for the work you are most passionate about. Every insecurity, every negative belief, every disowned aspect of your Self will show up so that you can address it. And every time you seek to increase your income, a new layer of “stuff” will come up. That’s why most people only dream of being millionaires instead of actually going out and creating seven-figure businesses. There is no place to hide when you ask people to invest in your purposeful work.
5. Money supports our authentic self-expression. Money lets us be who we are, make the choices we want to make, create the environment we want, hire support as needed, and experience new adventures, surroundings, and people.
6. Money buys happiness. Oh yes, it does!!! My daughter loves her iPod so much that she named it and sleeps with it every night. Money made that happen. Now … money doesn’t GUARANTEE happiness. And money isn’t the ONLY thing that makes us happy. You can have a boat load of money and be miserable. But I bet that a good many of your most recent happy experiences were made possible by money. Even if you’re just snuggling with loved ones on the couch, that couch was made possible by money. So let’s just admit it. Money makes us happy.
7. Money is practical. Occasionally, I get emails from people who tell me that they want nothing to do with money, and that the world should go back to bartering as a means of value exchange. Personally, I don’t want to get paid in chickens. I’m not against bartering arrangements by any means … but I’m very appreciative of money as a highly efficient and alchemical medium of value exchange. Plus, I’m fairly sure it’s here to stay.
Come on … don’t you love money? Watch this video for two very practical exercises you can do to restore your loving relationship with money!
To your infinite abundance,
Andrea Hess
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I love this, Andrea! Very timely. I just did a call yesterday, and this came up because it came up over the weekend in my community. Just one example, I had someone say to me, don’t you envision the world very soon where money is no longer needed and we all just get to do what we want? I said, “No!” And the look on her face… I envision a world where we step up and get paid for our gifts. I am constantly pointing out how money, for one, can pay for the workshops, spiritual retreats, travel, seminars, and all of that you want to do for your own growth and development. I also tell people that starting your own business is the most intense personal and spiritual growth and development course you will ever enroll in. Many are surprised by this when it starts happening to them. I love the way you talked about this – “Start asking people to pay you for the work you are most passionate about.” So true! Thank you.
LOL, i love the first part about imagining money as a person! so true! today i overdrew my primary bank account, not because i didnt make any money last month, but because i made quite a bit and felt generous so i was giving it away to people…you know, as gifts! participating in the “gift” economy…and then i realized that i was one of those overly giving people who would give someone the shirt of her back if someone didnt have a shirt…wait a minute, then I would be shirtless! so, i totally agree with you that money brings up for us all those issues and ways of being that are no longer in alignment, so THANK YOU MONEY!!! im happy i was in the red…and im also happy that i was able to instantly transfer more into it
thank you ABUNDANCE 
Andrea, YOU made me love money!!!! And I thank you for that…
My relationship with money is different than most because I didn’t adopt I alot of the government issue veiws that my teachers tried to pound into my head (while I was listening to the overtly capitailist pro money radio hosts), and I also grew up without orginized religon as a part of my life (and undoubtedly will be keeping it out of my adult life). Even with all those changes to my influences you can see that I’ve still got my own emotional issues with money.
My relationship with money is more like this:
“I love having you around. I’m so happy to see you. Except … you’re not enough. I need you for my survival, and I am glad you exist, But I wish I never had to WORRY about you again, and where have you been you and what’s wrong with you taking so long to show up. I want you to be there for me. But it’s so much work just to keep you around. And you’re not around nearly enough. I can’t just ignore you, that’s just going to give me bigger problems, so what I am going to do so that I have more of you and less pain dealing with you…I need you. I want you. Where are you hiding.”
As you can see I was still pretty heavily damaged, but at least I’m pretty clear on the do I love it or hate it question. Actaully my issues have more to do with feeling worthy of money than wanting it, and that is the schools talking.
I actaully remember debating with some of my class mates in high school about money buying happiness. Several years ago before beleived in manifestation or that a healthy income was possible for me. I couldn’t really find the words for it then but what I was trying to tell them was that money doesn’t make you happy so much as money buys comfort, security, and luxuries all of which play a role in making you happy.