I’ve noticed an interesting trend lately, with both my clients and healer friends.
It seems we’ve collectively gone overboard in the arena of personal responsibility.
I mean, YES, we are 100% responsible for our own experience. And YES, we create every circumstance in our lives. And YES, when something shows up, we need to figure out what “like” resonance in our Being would have attracted that.
Having said all that, we also share our experience with other people. And sometimes, those other people can spread a lot of muck, negativity, and drama around.
For those of us who are energetically sensitive (and I definitely speak for myself here!) it’s easy to identify with vibrational frequencies that others are creating in our environment. And because we have embraced responsibility for our own experience, we think that any negativity is our “stuff.”
For example …
If your spouse is fearful of your venture into self-employment and you find yourself plagued with motivation-killing self-doubt every Monday morning, it’s not that there’s anything “wrong” with you. It’s that you’ve been hanging out in your spouse’s fear vibration all weekend.
That fear vibration will activate whatever latent fear is in YOUR Being (and let’s face it … it’s always scary making the leap into self-employment) and will thoroughly sabotage you when it’s time to get to work on Monday morning.
Since we’re so self-aware and responsibility-conscious, we may start wondering what’s going on … do we “really” want self-employment? Do we have deep issues around self-worth? Do we maybe lack the self-discipline that is required when creating a new income stream?
No. It’s just that we’ve been hanging out all weekend with someone really fearful. It’s not their “fault,” by the way. This is not about blaming your behavior on other people. But it’s not your “stuff,” either.
If your child resents the time you are suddenly spending on your healing practice, you may find yourself getting increasingly grumpy. It’s not that you don’t love your work anymore. It’s just that a like vibration of resentment is triggered within you, and it makes you grumpy about your work.
Sometimes our experience is impacted by other people’s “stuff.”
Say it with me: “It’s not me, it’s YOU.”
Of course, it’s not ALWAYS someone else spreading bad vibes. Sometimes, it IS us.
But for those of us who are utterly dedicated to personal growth and spiritual evolution, for those of us who are the first to admit our faults and mistakes, for those of us who are happy and willing to do our inner healing work and strive for self-awareness …
… well, it’s easy to end up with 150% responsibility rather than our required fair share.
We’ve pretty much conditioned ourselves to look within FIRST. I think that’s great! But sometimes, this leads us to create problems within ourselves that don’t exist.
If you find yourself oddly unmotivated, or resentful, or feeling guilty all the time, or find yourself fearful for no good reason … look within. Do whatever work you do. But then, ask yourself who you are spending time with. Could it be that they are upholding this vibration and it is triggering a “like” response within you?
I know, I know, some of you are thinking: “But no-one can MAKE me feel anything.” That’s true. But it’s also really, really tough to hang out in the vibration of frustration or anger or fear all day and remain unaffected. The more conscious and energetically sensitive you are, the more you may want to look at what vibrational qualities are being upheld by the people you spend time with.
There’s also the saying: “If someone pushes our buttons, it’s an opportunity to get rid of the buttons.” That’s a great concept, but it doesn’t apply. We are all full-spectrum energetic Beings, through and through. In other words, ALL vibrational qualities, positive AND negative, are represented within us. This is the energetic basis for free will and our ability to create what we want.
The energetic qualities of anger, fear, guilt, resentment, and so forth, will always be potentially present in your Being, to one degree or another. You’re human, after all.
So please, give yourself a break. Don’t attempt to walk on water or eradicate all vibrations of fear / anger / guilt / etc. from your Being. It’s a poor investment of your time. Instead, make choices that resonate to the most positive vibration available, so that you increase this positive vibration in your Being.
Pay attention during your interactions. When you speak with someone, you are exchanging energy. Closely monitor your inner reactions. Disengage if the other person contributes a vibrational state that does not serve you. That doesn’t necessarily mean walking away. It may just mean changing the topic of conversation.
Have a chat with your loved one, if that’s where the bad vibe is coming from. Ask your Guides to clear your energy field of thought forms that are not your own. Take a bath in some sea salt.
This is not something to be afraid of or even concerned about. But awareness is key. Sometimes your “stuff” is not yours at all. But if you insist that it’s yours, you may end up chasing your tail on a never-ending and pointless quest for self-healing.
To your infinite abundance,
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