It’s easy to believe that we give or receive love from one another. But this belief actually creates great scarcity around love. After all, another person could simply stop “giving” us love … and so for many of us, love inspires tremendous attachment. We want love, and when we “have” it, we are often afraid of “losing” it.
But love doesn’t actually come from other people – it is a universal vibration that simply exists. It is not “given” to us by someone else. It simply IS. All we have to do is tune in, open up, and allow ourselves to align with its energy. We can be madly, intensely “in love” without actually being in a relationship. Love is fully available to us, at all times.
So why do we enter into loving relationships? Why the illusion that love is something that requires another person?
Intimate relationships offer us the opportunity of witnessing, examining and developing the relationship that is most central to this incarnation – our relationship with ourselves, as well as our relationship with the Divine. Which is really the same thing, because WE are Divine.
It is no accident that we fall in love with people based both on our similarities as well as our differences. Vibrations within our partners amplify the like vibrations within our own Being. Within a relationship, we can most clearly see our own strengths and gifts, because these highly developed vibrations are amplified even further by our partner’s similarities. We also become aware of our difference. These are the more underdeveloped vibrations within us that are well-developed in our partner … it’s almost as if the other person coaxes the vibrational qualities out of us that normally lie dormant. And so we fall in love with both the similar vibrational qualities that allow us to see our own magnificence, and the dissimilar vibrational strengths that allow us to see what qualities within us are still yet to be developed.
Through a relationship, we witness both our Divinity and our Divine potential.
As a partner triggers these heightened vibrational states within us, it’s easy to think that the energy of love is coming from them. But love is a vibration that is part of our very Being. It is always available to each of us, at all times, whether we are in a relationship or not.
I hope your Valentine’s Day is a celebration of the Divine Love that you are!
Blessings,
Andrea
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Well said, Andrea. I have “fallen” into the deception that love comes from someone else and that am not loved if I don’t have that someone special in my life. But now I know it comes from myself and the Divine. Thanks for reminding us of this. –Anita
Thanks Andrea, for pointing out so clearly the growing and expanding potential of all our relationships, once we discover that “the other person coaxes the vibrational qualities out of us that normally lie dormant”.
I’m looking forward to your teleclass!
Blessings,
Heike
Thank you for being a positive force.
The message above is very true. Its easy to ignore Divine Love. I often see people deep in self loathing and wonder why they cant look up and see the bird that just sang to them of the butterfly that just flew by sending out vibrational messages of happiness…The Divine love is obvious and apparent and is often ignored. Its within us with each craft of hobby that we enjoy, that vibration should be remembered and carried with us every where and everyday. Its tough to remember but the Divine always seems to remind us, if we are looking, on a continuous basis. Your blog is a reminder of that and I thank you for a great start to what is always a wonderful day in our lives if we just choose to open our eyes and ears to hear the Divine. Its bold and comes in loud and clear, if you need to be reminded just visit a park or a place of peace and those vibrational energies are everywhere. When you meet a person that can share those vibrations with you it send shockwaves though your very own energy as if you have just had a love jump start to your energy battery. Those are very wonderful people that, like the singing bird or passing butterfly, you should not try and capture but allow to move freely in your life, that is the only way I have discovered that you can avoid the pitfalls of negative energies like jealously–at that point they can and usually want to “fly away.” I have realized its best to allow the energy in and not siphen the energy away.
Once again thank you for the glorious reminder.
Have a wonderful day and Blessings in every aspect of your life,
Monica
My day ended great in the company of my extended family and would you believe it, doing group clearing!! It’s nice that we were able to put our past hurts and differences aside and collectively help each other to clear. The energies were moving for sure last night!! We had a couple of insights!
Belated Happy Valentine’s Day to you!!!
Evelyn
Hmm….. different perspective to chew on a bit.
Yes, been attached to thinking I was needing “those others” to love me and that would be the okay part of me.
After having been turned away by family and spouse and friends, it became more difficult to keep going, to keep my head up, to feel self worth.
Attached to others and items is something I am noticing lately. As if “they” will give me that good feeling I so desire.
After being “shoved” from a relationship in November and packing up my “stuff” into storage for the last 4 months, I wonder this day how different things might have been if I had felt more willing to let go of all of the above.
I am finding each day that I am learning to love myself more for the little things, like getting out of bed. And as I start to try and find a new place for the stored items, I am thinking I do not need them like I thought I did.
Where is the love in a chair? Unless I have at least a tree to place it under and a book to read in it.
I am still curious, although Byron Katie is doing me some good, how to find that button inside myself so that I can turn off the “need love” mechanism so when someone says they do not want me around, I shift quickly and quietly and softly go on.
Victoria, the button you are looking for is awakening self-love, remembering that you are complete and don’t need anyone who loves you in order to feel whole. And clearing all the stuff that keeps you from realizing (= see with real eyes) that this is the truth!
That’s part of what I just posted on my blog, maybe it gives you some inspiration?
“You are already whole and complete – you just don’t remember or forgot about it, for all the good reasons.
You are not a broken piece looking to be stuck together with another broken piece. Two broken pieces don’t make one whole piece – two broken pieces remain to be two broken pieces, no matter how close they are to each other!
Remember that you are whole, that you are worthy of love, that you actually are love. Polish the dust off, clear your doubts and emotional baggage from the past, turn it into your biggest treasure, treat yourself as lovable, and then let your light shine brightly, thus attracting other lights into your life!
You deserve to have the life and the kind of love you desire, and it’s your choice whether you create a union of two broken pieces OR a union of two radiant lights – shining brightly, expanding and enlightening everything around you!”
Warmly,
Heike
Andrea,
What a beautiful and timely post! I get the visual of all of us being pieces in a great puzzle; that we all must come together as one in order to see the big picture. My spiritual work has led me to that, but my work with clients has nailed it down for me. Thanks for being the wonderful teacher that you are!
Blessings,
Mary
PS I hope you had a Happy Valentine’s Day!
Dearest Andrea,
Lovely post and a fantastic reminder!
There are 2 ways that help me when I am not “feeling the love” – though that’s not very often. The best way is appreciation. Just finding things that we appreciate will move us towards a higher vibration. Things like appreciating the brief glimmer of sunshine on a cloudy day, admiring the remarkable engineering of our bodies, the melodious laugh of the kids playing outside – anything! Anything that’s makes us feel good – or at least better.
The other is really a type of appreciation, too, and that is feeling the unconditional love from my kids and dogs. If one is alone, I can’t recommend a pet – especially a dog or cat – highly enough
Blessings!
Keena
Thanks for this post. I know that understanding that love isn’t a finite resource, and that we don’t have to “conserve” our love or be stingy with it, has actually helped me to get comfortable working with larger numbers of people in what I do. — Best, Chris