I’ve been thinking a lot about habits lately. As you can imagine, my 30-day detox program has turned my usual eating habits completely upside down. With the New Year rapidly approaching, many of us are beginning to ponder our resolutions for 2009. It seems that most of us are trying to develop “good†habits while getting rid of “bad†habits.
But aren’t all habits, good or bad, born out of a lack of consciousness? When we try to develop a habit, we are asking for a behavior to be carried out, not by the conscious mind, but by the subconscious. For example, most of us delegate repetitive tasks such as driving and brushing our teeth to our subconscious mind. We complete those tasks the way we always do them. There is no thought, no intent, just conditioning through frequent repetition until the behavior no longer requires our attention. Perhaps it seems desirable to have “good†habits of exercise, diet, or spiritual practice. Or are we, by attempting to create a habit, inviting unconsciousness into our lives?
What if we discarded most habits, good and bad, and simply woke up each morning with profound curiosity and the question: “What action would serve me right now, in this present moment?†What if our choices of what to eat, how to get ready for the day, and how to do our jobs, were born out of the conscious recognition that, in each moment, we are a new and different person? What if we met each day with a fresh perspective, a point of view that has changed because of everything we learned and experienced yesterday?
Of course certain repetitive tasks will always have to be delegated to the subconscious. Driving, typing, putting on our make-up in the morning or brushing our hair … doing these tasks out of habit frees up the conscious mind for other thoughts. But if we eat the same things over and over again, go to the same restaurants, spend our leisure time the same way every weekend, do the same work-out routine over and over … then habitual activity is taking over more and more of our lives. The more we do out of habit, the less consciousness we are bringing to our lives.
Is it a good idea to strive for making our choices on autopilot? Sure, cultivating a “good†habit may at first seem desirable. A few weeks of conscious effort are rewarded by the subconscious taking over the behavior. But every habit, every routine, eventually runs its course and no longer serves us. Without consciousness, we fail to recognize that moment in which routine needs to change. We just keep doing what we’ve always done, even when the results are no longer what we want.
In this upcoming year, do we really want to create new, “good†habits for ourselves? Perhaps we are better served to constantly evaluate what is working and what is not, to shift our behaviors and choices based on what serves us in the present moment. Instead of being creatures of habit, we would become creatures of higher consciousness.
What do you think? Leave your comment and share!
Blessings,
Andrea Hess
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Just read a book called “Everyday Survival” that had a lot about mental scripts in it, and why even smart people follow dumb mental scripts (habits?) and make mistakes.
I like your idea of paying attention to what you’re doing right now. It’s hard, but can be learned and put to great use.
Andrea,
I think what you present could go either way. Certainly it would be ideal to get up each day with the ability to see everything anew. On the other hand, those folks who have carpools to be on time to, jobs where it is critical to punch a timeclock without fail or not get paid or worse not have a job, letting everything kind of freefall could be disastrous. There are some conformities that regular (read majority) folks must adhere to. Even though they may not agree. Some of what ideal serves up is luxury. Getting up and delighting in making a fancy omelet for breakfast one morning, because you’ve found the vegetables on the counter to be so inviting, can lack a certain amount of recognition of reality. Where did the time go, you wonder? As the train leaves without you.
It can very quickly get to that point of the world seemingly revolving around the late person’s new awareness of everyday acts, no matter how wondrous. And everyone cannot be self-employed, for who would stock the produce bins, providing the impetus and precurser for the beautiful omelet?
And that’s only one morning in a series of endless mornings when the same adherence to routine or pattern seems better to be in place than not, at least for the most part. And all this after the subconscious act of showering, shaving and brushing teeth…Sounds nice but then there’s the thing about getting the rest of the world to understand why one certain guy shows up late three mornings a week, or maybe it’s just until they’re all afforded the same.
Hi Andrea, I like the provocative nature of this post, and I agree with you that habits, good or bad, can be a poor substitute for mindful encounters and delightful experiences. At some level of development, I suppose it makes sense for someone to be a creature of habit, but as we evolve more fully into a deeper, broader, higher awareness and expression of Self, we’d also do well to be what I would call “witnessing souls of superconsciousness”.
Christopher
Hi Andrea,
An interesting one. Personally, I noticed earlier this year that one of my ‘good’ habits (going to the gym), had become repetetive and although it was doing me good, I was switched off and bored. I changed my routine and the awareness and enjoyment came back.
So, for me I’ll be keeping my ‘good’ habits but keep them moving and evolving. I’ll get a new gym routine every couple of months, cook something new every week, do new things and meet new people…..
As someone who is coming out of a period of routine that did not serve me well, I resolve to be true to myself and keep my spiritual evolution going by always ‘mixing it up’, always seeing the joy or the lessons to be learned.
Mel
Andrea,
A thought provoking article, as usual.
I think the essence of things is that habits should serve us, not us them. The way the human psyche is set up, habits will be there, one way or the other. Habits enable us to move on to something new, to new lessons, new experiences. Of course, we need to engage in the perpetual “tuning” of our habits so that they serve our ends, especially our spiritual ends.
Without habits, a daily “blank slate” would mean no growth or evolution.
Habits, well trained, enable us to focus our endeavors on our essential goals: “Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.”
Wow Andrea! I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that we invite unconsciousness when we stop questioning our habits (good or bad). I don’t think it’s possible to eliminate all routines and habits… since knowing how to open a door is a habit, knowing how to walk/drive to work is a habit, etc. Most habits serve us to allow ourselves to think of more important things.
Yet, the idea that we could choose to do things differently at any point in time is definitely more appealing and sounds just right. I do agree that we need to constantly be evaluating our food choices and leisure activities.
Great probing article!
I am looking at how I can experience Christmas in a new way that allows me to be connected with my Heart. If I break the word Christmas into two words I get Christ Mass. So as I explore this train of thought further what I am lead to intuitively is to the realization that Christmas can be celebrated as the Mass of Christ. So I looked up Mass and what it meant in Wikipedia and got this:
“In physical science, mass is the amount of matter in a chemical substance. In everyday usage, mass is commonly confused with weight. But, in physics and engineering, weight means the strength of the gravitational pull on the object; that is, how heavy it is, measured in units of newtons. In everyday situations, the weight of an object is proportional to its mass, which usually makes it unproblematic to use the same word for both concepts. However, the distinction between mass and weight becomes important for measurements with a precision better than a few percent (due to slight differences in the strength of the Earth’s gravitational field at different places), and for places far from the surface of the Earth, such as in space or on other
planets.†Wikipedia
You have the word Christ and for me it has always meant consciousness. That Christ is in all of us and that it is a non-physical energy. Christ is supreme Love free from duality. Christ for me is the Breath of God. The ever present Eternal I Am.
Forgive me for going about things in round about way but it will all make sense shortly.
So I can experience Christmas in a mechanical way, in habitual way, without awareness, without a connection to my Heart. I do also have the choice to see things differently and act differently. I have the choice to experience and to celebrate the Manifestation of Christ/ Consciousness/ Love with others. That Christmas is the expression of the non-physical expressed through the physical(Mass). Knowing this this I can realize that giving presents is fun, good and pleasurable, but it is the Gift of PRESENCE that I have the opportunity to offer to others and also be open to receive. What is very important for me right now in my life is how I can invite the Sacred into all areas of my life. When I am in touch with the Sacred than my life has a magic to it that is liberating, not only to me but also others. What I love about people that interested in this kind of ‘work’ is that we wish to share and experience the Light in our life. Thank Andrea for this topic as it allowed me to see that there are others who have a wish to do things differently than what they are normally unaccustomed to doing. To break a habit it is an invitation to acknowledge that one has free-will and the opportunity to experience it.
Thank You.
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