In times of change, imbalance inevitably occurs in our lives. Temporary imbalances such as intense focus on a new job or relationship actually serve to move us forward in life. In order to create change, we must upset the status quo for a while. Eventually, though, we have to find a new state of balance for ourselves. If we’ve undergone a dramatic shift in our life circumstances, we have to consider that we may have no idea what “balance†now looks like. Nothing is as it was – we are changed. It is tempting to try and get “back†into balance, but we cannot go back to who we were a month or even a week ago.
Here’s a simple way of restoring balance from the perspective of your present life circumstances.
1. What five energetic qualities present themselves most often in your day or week? These are not events! They are the energetic states that the events represent. For example, you may find that you are frequently in a state of stress, or waiting, or expectation, or joy, or stuckness. If you look at the last three or four days in your life, what energetic qualities come to mind?
These energetic qualities might be what we consider positive or negative – imbalances can exist on both sides of the spectrum. For example, an imbalance of “joy†might be that we walk around in a blissful stupor, grinning ear to ear, but not getting much done! An extreme state of joy might be great for a few hours or even a day, but would eventually interfere with our daily life.
2. Looking at your list of five energetic qualities, what would be their opposite resonance? You may feel the opposite of “stress†to be relaxation or peace, the opposite of “need†to be satisfaction or abundance or nurture … there are really no “wrong†answers here. When balancing a positive energy such as “joy,†often the energy needs to be grounded, so you might pick “practicality†as a counter-energy, rather than a negative state. Pick the energetic qualities you feel would most ideally counterbalance what you are prominently experiencing in your life.
3. Can you now think of two or three activities that would evoke each of the five countering or balancing energetic qualities in your life? If you feel needy and the opposing energy is nurture, can you think of two or three activities that make you feel nurtured? If you are opposing stress with peace, what evokes peace within you?
You list of activities gives you a simple recipe for creating energetic balance. You can repeat this process on a weekly or even daily basis. Balance is a constantly evolving state, even as we are constantly evolving.
Blessings,
Andrea
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Sometimes, even without going through a dramatic shift in life, we find that our balance ‘center’ has moved. Especially true when we try to recapture past or us in past.
Hi Andrea,
I relate to this balance issue in the following way: It seems every 7-10 days I feel aching in my body and general fatigue. Sometimes it’s my shoulders, my head, or sinuses. It seems the day before this happens, my energy is high and I am wound up, so to speak. I imagine the trick to balance out my energetic highs and lows would be to notice when I’m getting wound up and try and settle down or simply sit still. Thanks for your thoughts on creating balance.
Anita
What excellent advice – picking a counter energy for balance! Let’s see…I’ve been feeling stuck at certain parts for the past few weeks but I’m choosing peace and patience, even while I am in the space of not knowing.
Andrea,
I was struck by the very simplicity and common sense of this advice. So I stopped to notice what happens when doing this balancing on my own. I really feel the tension of holding the polarity. As you said, even too much joy can render one lost to the dinner dishes! The positive, or really the strongest feeling, has such a pull! Do you experience that tension as you try to balance in another direction?
Thanks for the invitation to your class, what a nice gesture!
Hiya Andrea, I loved this post, fabulous insight! When things get a bit hectic and out of balance for me, I would turn to many ‘old faithfuls’ ie; yoga, music, meditation, massage, horse riding etc.. but I never thought which might be more helpful for a particular situation ( probably why I didn’t have a 100% success rate with each one !) Sometimes something would work like a dream , then next time I’d still be spinning like a top!
Now I get it! You have to use the right key to open each lock!!!
Cheers , Helen
I love the way you write. I read so many blogs now that I honestly forgot how I came to meet you… that is, until I got your feed and came here to read your post. I look forward to the day when I will have the impact that you obviously have.
Thanks for the kind words, but thank you especially for the inspiration. I am discovering newer levels of balance in my own life by applying the advice you offered here. Funny the “coincidence.” I guess you can say I am living proof that you know what you are talking about!
I really appreciate you and what you are doing to lift our collective vibration. Love and light to you and all you do Andrea.
Namaste’ — jb
Avani, that is so true. Trying to recapture a state of our past can shift us out of balance significantly.
Anita, I bet if you work on grounding when you find yourself getting high, you will avoid the energetic crash!
Evelyn, you might actually find it more helpful to generate movement – any kind of movement. That would be a good counter to stuckness.
Barbara – You bring up the interesting point of polarity. I think in the middle, in that balancing point, is where we find peace and detachment. It is exhausting “holding” an energetic extreme.
Helen – Perfect! Yup, what works for us sometimes might not be appropriate a few days later. All our practices are really just tools. Sometimes we get WAY attached and make the tool the end-all. But if you tap into what the tool does for you energetically, you’ll know exactly what tool fits your specific situation!
Congratulations on your new blog!!!
Jeff – Aaawwww, thank you! I’m thrilled this has created some shifts for you!
Blessings,
Andrea
Andrea,
As always, I am impressed by your talent for taking a big mash-up of esoteric and arcane energetic scenarios and packaging them into a toolbox of practicality — complete with useful handles and wheels on the bottom!
The focus on the energy patterns as separate from the events is a great insight. And the concept of “too much of a good thing” is often something we think we’d never need or want to balance.
Sharing from a personal perspective, I nearly always find myself needing to monitor spending so much time in “my head” — information, reading, writing, technology — I describe these energies in elemental terms, in which case, too much Air! My work with clients requires heavy doses of Water — emotion, empathy, intuition…
So I went into this weekend looking for opportunities to balance with more Earth and Fire — getting grounded in the body, in the physical, in nature, and burning off and releasing excess mental energy.
I had friends come from out of town for a quick trip hiking, white-water rafting, and we finished off with a silly, no-rules game of frisbee in the park.
Your frame of reference on creating balance rocks! I will be revisiting this one.
Slade
Hey Andrea
I love this post, such simple and practical wisdom. I can see how this would help and will store it away for the next bout of resistance. It’s all about the tools in your toolbox so thanks for another one.
In love, light and abundance x x x