Dan

Linda – Thank you, I’m so glad this was timely for you!

Slade – Oh, you bring up such a great point – yes, why wouldn’t the people we love applaud our accelerated growth and cheer us onward? It’s true that this is so not about us, but about their relationship with themselves.

Nickie – So glad this was appropriate for you. It does help to look at the energetic perspective, so we can let go of “making it work” when, vibrationally, it simply can’t! I’m not advocating giving up easily – but sometimes parting ways is best for all involved.

Akemi – When it comes to family members – well, they’ll always be family, right? It’s important to just leave them be who they are and appreciate them without trying to “help” them.

Anna – That empty, clear space is beautiful – it means you’re ready to attract the people that will help propel you even further forward! And those relationships might look really different from what you’ve been involved with in the past … the quality of our relationships shifts, too.

Evelyn – How wonderful that you feel in resonance with your spouse. And it’s normal that this looks different for each of you. Growth doesn’t always have to be in the context of obvious spiritual development, it can take so many forms.

Barbara – I think you bring up an important point – if we feel contracted within a relationship, that energy DOES spill over into other life areas. We are, after all, whole Beings! Sometimes work within a relationship leads to expansion in many different areas of our lives!

Vitor – I think our egoic Self experiences the pain – and hopefully this teaches us detachment. I’m not sure that our life has to be a revolving door of people if we’re on a path of spiritual growth, just that those people must also be committed to their growth if they’re going to stay in our lives. Hmmm. You’re right, though, I find my hobbies cycle in and out quite frequently.

Jodi – Thank you! I agree with you that our relationships are evolving into something new – there really are no models in front of us, I think, of what they’ll look like. Which is wonderful in many ways, because we get to create what serves us without preconceived notions!

Blessings,
Andrea

I believe that the traditional relationship is evolving to a more spiritually based union where we will have multiple relationships in one lifetime. We will come together to uplift and support each other to grow spiritually.

When we are in a relationship with anyone in our life, we must love and appreciate that person for who they are right now, in this moment. Then we can enjoy the blessing of who they are at their soul vibration.

This journey can be challenging when our hearts get in the way.

Jodi

This happens to me all the time, both within my relationship and with firends, acquaintances and coworkers. It can be painful to watch how people and activities you loved a year ago suddenly seem so dull by comparison with your current life. It’s hard but necessary to accept this fact.

Vitor

Interestingly my anti-spam word today was rent. Rent? Hmmm? A little different than what I usually see here, more ‘spiritual’ words. I thought I had something to say and then it shifted a little, added a new twist.

The immediate concrete thought that came to me is about renting an apartment. But just before that, a quick, more subtle message that means the same in the end. It was just a flash and I almost missed it. Impermancy.

When you rent, rather than own your space, there is a definite knowing that this could change. The building could be sold, converted to condos, the rent get too unreasonable for your income. All kinds of things that you really have no control over could change the situation faster than if you had the option of selling or not. But renting also has a different element of freedom that owning does not.

I think your article desribed pefectly the idea that relationships can be decribed in many of the same terms. You have the freedoms associated with renting as well as the benefits associated with owning, comfortability, familairity, etc..

Right now my work is with relationship. In all kinds of ways and framework. Not traditional one-on-one partnership, but this idea of vibrational matching you’ve so clearly described. It comes down to, where is it exactly that I want or need to be? For as you said, if things are not working for me or if they are, and I encounter the situation of mismatched, I can and often do experience the negativity associated with that state. It can be more than just uncomfortable, it can be detrimental.

I find myself then testing even the smallest interactions I’m having with others. It seems the big stuff from one relationship spills over, the excess engery created to deal with the larger things affects other scenarios. Unfortunately sometimes, my awareness doesn’t always catch it until it was a done deal.

And this article of yours seems so applicable to a situation I just recently experienced. A relationship between reader and writer.

It can not only be difficult to know that what one is experiencing is in fact the expansion being worked for, but I guess it often presses the fear button too, without conscious awareness.

I’m laughing with my guides as I get the last message here. Not Father Knows Best, but Subconscious Knows Best. Good to know I have guides with some weird sense of humor…as old tv shows are not my thing! But they did get my attention and get the message across.

Thanks for sharing,
Evelyn

Thank you for sharing with us.

I smiled listening to the teleclass when I heard some other practitioners say that they had grown and changed so much that they had left lots of people behind them. This sounded so similar to my own experiences – over the last couple of months I have had to let go of some of my closest relationships which weren’t serving me or the other person.

And now I’m in such a clear space. Yes, it’s a bit empty and feels kind of weird, but I know it’s a necessary thing to go through to create something different.

So it’s on us to live this way ourselves. In my case, I had no problem letting go of my friends as I left corporate world — with my parents, on the other hand, I’m looking at how the energetic relationship “ends”.

Best wishes to your renewed life.

I have always understood this on one level or another. This is a wonderful way to explain relationships to people and why they simply do not work out.

Thank you!

Nickie

I was recently giving an interview where so many of the questions were about “dark” aspects of spiritual growth — perhaps it was just the interviewer’s personal frame of reference — but when asked “What is the most difficult thing about your personal spiritual evolution that you were not expecting?”

For me, this topic you’re writing about is it — I have lost so many people in my life who were very dear to me because of my efforts to improve myself…

I was stunned. How can it be, that someone who already loves me would not love a new and improved version of me?

I believe it speaks to the Two Choices you list here.

I struggled for years with something more like “survivor’s guilt” — I made it Out and they chose not to come with me… They chose to be repelled by my energy, even when the opposite should be true.

Julia Cameron wrote that Sometimes, the people you love have to make You the monster in the mirror so that they don’t have to change…

Thank you for your personal exploration here — this is a post I will come back to again.

Slade

Your writing continues to inspire and inform. The timing of your post is perfect and helps to explain what I’ve been experiencing of late regarding a recent energy shift and then a corresponding period of fatigue and frustration.

This is an excellent perspective on relationships and growth and one I will pass along and continue to reflect on.

Thanks, as always for your words and your work.
Linda