Comments on: Sharing Our Evolution http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/ Financial Abundance for Spiritual Seekers Wed, 17 Mar 2010 21:50:18 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: CK Reyes http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1811 CK Reyes Sun, 15 Jun 2008 15:59:18 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1811 Andrea, I will send my clients to read this post. Telling your dreams to friends and family can definately kill the passion for the desire inside of you. I have noticed that often the dream is killed before we even share the idea. It\'s killed in our own heads...before we ever utter a word about it, and then as you say: our doubts are mirrored back to us. It almost seems as if we are looking for collaborators for our doubts. \"Please confirm my insecurity and unknowing about my desire,\" seems to be a common unconscious intention for sharing. Although I don\'t give advice, I usually gently suggest that it might not be in your best interest to share the desire until you have it firmly embedded in your own heart, then with conviction you can claim your right to go after what you want...not ask for permission! Lots could be said about fear of success around this topic. Thanks for your insight! Andrea,
I will send my clients to read this post. Telling your dreams to friends and family can definately kill the passion for the desire inside of you. I have noticed that often the dream is killed before we even share the idea. It\’s killed in our own heads…before we ever utter a word about it, and then as you say: our doubts are mirrored back to us. It almost seems as if we are looking for collaborators for our doubts. \”Please confirm my insecurity and unknowing about my desire,\” seems to be a common unconscious intention for sharing. Although I don\’t give advice, I usually gently suggest that it might not be in your best interest to share the desire until you have it firmly embedded in your own heart, then with conviction you can claim your right to go after what you want…not ask for permission! Lots could be said about fear of success around this topic. Thanks for your insight!

]]> By: CK Reyes http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1810 CK Reyes Sun, 15 Jun 2008 15:57:10 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1810 Andrea, I will send my clients to read this post. Telling your dreams to friends and family can definately kill the passion for the desire inside of you. I have noticed that often the dream is killed before we even share the idea. It's killed in our own heads...before we ever utter a word about it, and then as you say: our doubts are mirrored back to us. It almost seems as if we are looking for collaborators for our doubts. "Please confirm my insecurity and unknowing about my desire," seems to be a common unconscious intention for sharing. Although I don't give advice, I usually gently suggest that it might not be in your best interest to share the desire until you have it firmly embedded in your own heart, then with conviction you can claim your right to go after what you want...not ask for permission! Lots could be said about fear of success around this topic. Thanks for your insight! Andrea,
I will send my clients to read this post. Telling your dreams to friends and family can definately kill the passion for the desire inside of you. I have noticed that often the dream is killed before we even share the idea. It’s killed in our own heads…before we ever utter a word about it, and then as you say: our doubts are mirrored back to us. It almost seems as if we are looking for collaborators for our doubts. “Please confirm my insecurity and unknowing about my desire,” seems to be a common unconscious intention for sharing. Although I don’t give advice, I usually gently suggest that it might not be in your best interest to share the desire until you have it firmly embedded in your own heart, then with conviction you can claim your right to go after what you want…not ask for permission! Lots could be said about fear of success around this topic. Thanks for your insight!

]]> By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1776 Tom Volkar / Delightful Work Tue, 03 Jun 2008 17:57:27 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1776 Steal away my friend! I'm sure you'll use it well. I'm looking forward to it. Steal away my friend! I’m sure you’ll use it well. I’m looking forward to it.

]]> By: Andrea Hess http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1775 Andrea Hess Tue, 03 Jun 2008 13:21:11 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1775 Thank you, Tom! Can I tell you how much I love the phrase "intention investigation"? Mind if I steal it? :-) That phrase created a whole other article in my head ... Blessings, Andrea Thank you, Tom! Can I tell you how much I love the phrase “intention investigation”? Mind if I steal it? :-) That phrase created a whole other article in my head …

Blessings,
Andrea

]]> By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1774 Tom Volkar / Delightful Work Tue, 03 Jun 2008 11:44:08 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1774 It's kind of interesting how when we are new to something and could really use the support we don't get it. But once we are stronger and don't care about it - the support seems to come. You said this. "The truth usually is, however, that our loved ones are merely reflecting our own discomfort back to us. They are simply mirroring our own objections, hesitations, and ambiguity." This is exactly what's happened to me, countless times. When they sense our enthusiasm and confidence they support us accordingly. If they are present to reflect back to us what our true intention is - that's a great service they are fulfilling. Andrea I love how this article has instigated an intention investigation on my part. Thanks! It’s kind of interesting how when we are new to something and could really use the support we don’t get it. But once we are stronger and don’t care about it – the support seems to come. You said this. “The truth usually is, however, that our loved ones are merely reflecting our own discomfort back to us. They are simply mirroring our own objections, hesitations, and ambiguity.”

This is exactly what’s happened to me, countless times. When they sense our enthusiasm and confidence they support us accordingly. If they are present to reflect back to us what our true intention is – that’s a great service they are fulfilling. Andrea I love how this article has instigated an intention investigation on my part. Thanks!

]]> By: Andrea Hess http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1773 Andrea Hess Sun, 01 Jun 2008 18:32:22 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1773 Akemi - That's great! That must be a huge confidence-booster, to know that the people in your life are interested in this new career of yours! Mags - So true! That's a perfect example of how others are a fantastic mirror of our relationship with ourselves. Especially the people that really bother us can serve us by forcing us to examine an inner Truth we haven't quite wanted to deal with! Julie - Wow! Thank you so much. You are so right - intention first, the details do fall into place along the way. I'd love to know what actions this post is instegating .... and if there's a website involved, do post a link here, so we can all come and support you! :-) Pat - Yeah, somehow the opinions of others are never as inspiring as our own authentic self-expression, are they? You point out a great way to tell the difference! Thank you all for your comments! Blessings, Andrea Akemi – That’s great! That must be a huge confidence-booster, to know that the people in your life are interested in this new career of yours!

Mags – So true! That’s a perfect example of how others are a fantastic mirror of our relationship with ourselves. Especially the people that really bother us can serve us by forcing us to examine an inner Truth we haven’t quite wanted to deal with!

Julie – Wow! Thank you so much. You are so right – intention first, the details do fall into place along the way. I’d love to know what actions this post is instegating …. and if there’s a website involved, do post a link here, so we can all come and support you! :-)

Pat – Yeah, somehow the opinions of others are never as inspiring as our own authentic self-expression, are they? You point out a great way to tell the difference!

Thank you all for your comments!
Blessings,
Andrea

]]> By: Pat R http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1772 Pat R Sat, 31 May 2008 06:16:48 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1772 I find when I follow my inner guidance and listen is when I feel more real and authentic especially when I've discovered something new or have an idea. But when I ignore that and give my attention to the opinion of others instead is when I lose steam and my passion fizzles. As always, Andrea, you always have something good to share. Blessings, I find when I follow my inner guidance and listen is when I feel more real and authentic especially when I’ve discovered something new or have an idea. But when I ignore that and give my attention to the opinion of others instead is when I lose steam and my passion fizzles.

As always, Andrea, you always have something good to share.

Blessings,

]]> By: Julie http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1771 Julie Sat, 31 May 2008 01:12:37 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1771 Andrea, the truth of this article deeply resonated in me, suddenly making everything clear. Simple. Now I feel I can move forward in starting my own business without endless "what ifs" paralyzing me. My intention really IS the key. And the rest? Just details, really, that'll work out as I go. Endless thanks. Andrea, the truth of this article deeply resonated in me, suddenly making everything clear. Simple. Now I feel I can move forward in starting my own business without endless “what ifs” paralyzing me. My intention really IS the key. And the rest? Just details, really, that’ll work out as I go.

Endless thanks.

]]> By: Mags | Woo-Woo Wisdom http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1748 Mags | Woo-Woo Wisdom Thu, 29 May 2008 08:30:28 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1748 Great article, Andrea! I've come to realise that when I find myself working really hard to convince someone about my choices/actions, it's usually an indication that I still need to convince myself ;) . And it means that I need to clarify my intentions - either this honest introspection will provide a creative impetus for a project, or I'll realise that I was doing something because I thought I "should", in which case I can let it go and open up some space for something which does match my intentions. Great article, Andrea! I’ve come to realise that when I find myself working really hard to convince someone about my choices/actions, it’s usually an indication that I still need to convince myself ;) . And it means that I need to clarify my intentions – either this honest introspection will provide a creative impetus for a project, or I’ll realise that I was doing something because I thought I “should”, in which case I can let it go and open up some space for something which does match my intentions.

]]> By: Akemi - Yes to Me http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1746 Akemi - Yes to Me Thu, 29 May 2008 00:11:38 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1746 Hey, I'm proud to report I'm feeling better. Interestingly enough, most people don't really get off - in fact, they get intrigued when I tell them about the soul and my new service. Thanks again! Hey, I’m proud to report I’m feeling better.
Interestingly enough, most people don’t really get off – in fact, they get intrigued when I tell them about the soul and my new service.
Thanks again!

]]> By: Andrea Hess http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1745 Andrea Hess Wed, 28 May 2008 22:31:02 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1745 Slade - Oh, absolutely, I think we may at times want permission to either go ahead and move forward - or permission to let an opportunity go by! You know, I've really come to the recognition that my own level of comfort with my weird job is what determines everyone else's level of comfort. Either that, or people are still uncomfortable and I just don't care that much. :-) I have excellent friends who really don't believe in what I do, and it's a complete non-issue. Like you, I definitely do not require them to get on board with what I'm doing most of the time - just to support the fact that I'm excited or enthusiastic, rather than the actual thing itself. It's a very good point you make about what kind of support to expect. Michelle - Nope, never been to India and have no plans to go! I do seem to know a lot of people who have done that, though - like Patricia, to name just one :-) - so that example just jumped into my head! As for my own journeys ... they usually aren't physical! I don't really love to travel, I did a lot of that in childhood, and now I'm a total homebody. I tend to be extremely adventurous when it comes to launching new classes or programs, or doing something new in business. I don't think much, I just jump right in. I do travel to workshops from time to time. Patricia - Isn't it wonderful that they can support us without agreeing with us? I think we get into trouble when we demand the agreement or actual understanding. I think my own family thought I was nuts when I went from singing opera to massage therapy. Oddly enough, becoming a yoga teacher and then starting intuitive work didn't seem to make as much of an impact. Or maybe they think I'm totally crazy, but put up with me anyway. :-) No-one has ever mentioned being uncomfortable, anyway, which I guess is surprising! Akemi - Glad you added the link! :-) You know, your question on what to do if someone considers our work "demonic" did spark a train of thought that contributed to this article! So many people I work with do have trouble "coming out of the psychic/spiritual closet" sometimes, or don't feel supported by their family. It definitely got me thinking! Don't worry, the shyness passes! Sometimes I really have a little fun, telling new people what I do after lulling them into thinking I'm a perfectly "normal" person. Hee hee. Blessings, Andrea Slade – Oh, absolutely, I think we may at times want permission to either go ahead and move forward – or permission to let an opportunity go by!

You know, I’ve really come to the recognition that my own level of comfort with my weird job is what determines everyone else’s level of comfort. Either that, or people are still uncomfortable and I just don’t care that much. :-) I have excellent friends who really don’t believe in what I do, and it’s a complete non-issue. Like you, I definitely do not require them to get on board with what I’m doing most of the time – just to support the fact that I’m excited or enthusiastic, rather than the actual thing itself. It’s a very good point you make about what kind of support to expect.

Michelle – Nope, never been to India and have no plans to go! I do seem to know a lot of people who have done that, though – like Patricia, to name just one :-) – so that example just jumped into my head! As for my own journeys … they usually aren’t physical! I don’t really love to travel, I did a lot of that in childhood, and now I’m a total homebody. I tend to be extremely adventurous when it comes to launching new classes or programs, or doing something new in business. I don’t think much, I just jump right in. I do travel to workshops from time to time.

Patricia – Isn’t it wonderful that they can support us without agreeing with us? I think we get into trouble when we demand the agreement or actual understanding.

I think my own family thought I was nuts when I went from singing opera to massage therapy. Oddly enough, becoming a yoga teacher and then starting intuitive work didn’t seem to make as much of an impact. Or maybe they think I’m totally crazy, but put up with me anyway. :-) No-one has ever mentioned being uncomfortable, anyway, which I guess is surprising!

Akemi – Glad you added the link! :-)

You know, your question on what to do if someone considers our work “demonic” did spark a train of thought that contributed to this article! So many people I work with do have trouble “coming out of the psychic/spiritual closet” sometimes, or don’t feel supported by their family. It definitely got me thinking!

Don’t worry, the shyness passes! Sometimes I really have a little fun, telling new people what I do after lulling them into thinking I’m a perfectly “normal” person. Hee hee.

Blessings,
Andrea

]]> By: Akemi - Yes to Me http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1743 Akemi - Yes to Me Wed, 28 May 2008 21:48:02 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1743 Hey, Andrea, you wrote this post for me, right!? At first, I was thinking of my own <a href="http://yes-to-me.com/2008/04/25/dodging-the-many-forms-of-psychological-manipulation/" rel="nofollow">post on how people, our loved ones included, can manipulate us.</a> And I'm so glad you went deeper and pointed out the energetic issue behind the scene. Our own uncertainty reflects -- even invites -- others' criticism, disapproval, and manipulation. And Slade is right that sometimes we utilize this system to excuse ourselves from completing the action. As I am starting my second line of service ^_^ and was feeling a bit "shy" about it, this post is so helpful. Thank you. Hey, Andrea, you wrote this post for me, right!?

At first, I was thinking of my own post on how people, our loved ones included, can manipulate us. And I’m so glad you went deeper and pointed out the energetic issue behind the scene. Our own uncertainty reflects — even invites — others’ criticism, disapproval, and manipulation. And Slade is right that sometimes we utilize this system to excuse ourselves from completing the action.

As I am starting my second line of service ^_^ and was feeling a bit “shy” about it, this post is so helpful. Thank you.

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1742 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Wed, 28 May 2008 21:44:49 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1742 Andrea, your example of the India trip conversation could have taken place with my family for each of my India trips. My whole family thought I had lost my mind going to India. I hadn't been on an airplane or out of the U. S. before that first trip in 1998. My husband still doesn't understand why I go to India. My sister is just now beginning to open up to her own spirituality and we can have conversations where she doesn't think my views are crazy. They all know that I don't think that I am crazy and that those trips and my spiritual views are things that I really believe in. Andrea, your example of the India trip conversation could have taken place with my family for each of my India trips. My whole family thought I had lost my mind going to India. I hadn’t been on an airplane or out of the U. S. before that first trip in 1998. My husband still doesn’t understand why I go to India. My sister is just now beginning to open up to her own spirituality and we can have conversations where she doesn’t think my views are crazy. They all know that I don’t think that I am crazy and that those trips and my spiritual views are things that I really believe in.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1741 Michelle Wed, 28 May 2008 20:49:14 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1741 Have you been to India or are you going to India? Is that something you are personally aspiring to, or is it just for an example? I am curious where you go or might have gone, that helps you personally on your journey. Have you been to India or are you going to India? Is that something you are personally aspiring to, or is it just for an example? I am curious where you go or might have gone, that helps you personally on your journey.

]]> By: Slade | Shift Your Spirits http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/05/28/sharing-our-evolution/comment-page-1/#comment-1740 Slade | Shift Your Spirits Wed, 28 May 2008 20:26:16 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=208#comment-1740 Do you wonder if sometimes what people are asking for is really some form of permission? Permission is not the same thing as encouragement or support, and ultimately is something you must give yourself. I don't ask for permission, although I do share what my intentions with those close to me. I also recognize that the majority of my friends and family do NOT necessarily share in my belief system, the work that I do may freak them out a little bit or they may just not get it. It's funny, but I find that I present things more in a "Look what craziness I have planned!" And the people who really love and support me don't have to love and support the details, the content, or the dreams, they are only required to say "Go, Slade! Cool! Wonderful!" That part is very easy for anyone to offer, and so I'm very careful that I don't expect or require more than that. For the entrepreneurs out there, please know that your Mama and your BFF are not necessarily your customer or your audience -- if they are, wonderful! But it's not required. And one other little thing, do we sometimes ask someone to confirm our own doubts for us? Are we sometimes asking for someone to say "Yeah, you're going to make a fool of yourself if you proceed with that..." Even people who don't realize they are, are extremely sensitive and will most often respond to unspoken, powerful, energetic cues... from YOU. Do you wonder if sometimes what people are asking for is really some form of permission? Permission is not the same thing as encouragement or support, and ultimately is something you must give yourself.

I don’t ask for permission, although I do share what my intentions with those close to me. I also recognize that the majority of my friends and family do NOT necessarily share in my belief system, the work that I do may freak them out a little bit or they may just not get it.

It’s funny, but I find that I present things more in a “Look what craziness I have planned!” And the people who really love and support me don’t have to love and support the details, the content, or the dreams, they are only required to say “Go, Slade! Cool! Wonderful!”

That part is very easy for anyone to offer, and so I’m very careful that I don’t expect or require more than that.

For the entrepreneurs out there, please know that your Mama and your BFF are not necessarily your customer or your audience — if they are, wonderful! But it’s not required.

And one other little thing, do we sometimes ask someone to confirm our own doubts for us? Are we sometimes asking for someone to say “Yeah, you’re going to make a fool of yourself if you proceed with that…” Even people who don’t realize they are, are extremely sensitive and will most often respond to unspoken, powerful, energetic cues… from YOU.

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