I received an incredibly insightful question from one of my readers the other day:

“I have tried innumerable things to clear blockages. And I continue to work. And really struggle with the work. And I do let things fall by the wayside, too. So I do chip away at things, but the brick wall is a familiar place. My question is, when do you really know where your honesty about doing something just ends? How does one know when they are finally being honest with themselves?”

It was such a great question, I thought I’d post the answer here. Many of us feel like we are hitting the same brick wall over and over again. Sometimes, energetic blocks and restrictions are in play – and we may move to resolve those. But what if the brick wall remains? How do we know when we’re finally being honest with ourselves?

I guess the simplest, most final answer would be “When change is the outcome of the work we do.” But that would mean not acknowledging the journey! So let me backtrack a bit.

We create all of it – the brick walls, the unconsciousness regarding the brick walls, but also the willingness to keep chipping away at them. Sometimes “finally being honest” isn’t a one-time event. It is a slow process, an evolutionary process. Just like those brick walls were built within us over time – and are now manifesting themselves so obviously – so do they have to be deconstructed, one brick at a time. Sometimes we just take one brick off the top, and the wall seems like it is still there. Sometimes we remove one brick, and catch a glimpse of what’s on the other side.

Sometimes, what’s on the other side scares the crap out of us, so we stick that brick right back in! We might sit for a while with that loose brick, before gathering the courage to remove it for good. I think we are as honest as we can be in the moment. If we’re doing our work, then we’re doing the best we can. We’re not perfect. Nor is it productive to chip away at that brick wall constantly. Sometimes we need a break, to recharge our batteries. Then we get back to work.

One day, we’ve removed enough bricks from the top of the wall and lightened enough of the load that we can remove the foundation stone, the corner stone. And then the whole wall comes tumbling down. The tendency here might be to say: “I’ve been wasting my time on those other bricks – this is the one I should have removed all along.” But the fact is, we wouldn’t have been able to until the load was light enough to remove that corner stone.

Here are some questions that might help in the process:

What’s behind the wall? Beyond the blockages you’ve been struggling to clear?
If those blockages were gone, what would that mean for your life?
What greatness might you step into?
How powerful might you become?

We hate our walls – and we also love our walls. They are our creations. Until we take ownership of why we created them for ourselves, we are forever doing battle, struggling internally. When we fight the wall, we fight ourselves. The part of ourselves that we are fighting might even grow stronger, more persistent. It wants acknowledgment, not annihilation.

Be with the wall, accept the wall, sit with the fear behind the wall. See what happens.

Blessings,
Andrea

Speaking of walls ….

Got boundaries?

Suzanne Bird-Harris of Learning Curve Coaching is offering an amazing new four-week teleclass series called “Personal Boundaries: Fences That Set You Free” beginning March 18th. The series includes a personal coaching session, too. Be sure to check it out!

Some Link Love

Here are some inspiring articles I came across recently that I wanted to share. The first is from Paula Kawal’s blog – check out Remember That You Are An Artist. The other is a great resource from Albert of Urban Monk on transcending our fears so that we can step into our life purpose. Enjoy!

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