Comments on: How to deal with negative people http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/ Financial Abundance for Spiritual Seekers Thu, 29 Jul 2010 00:45:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sindi http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-19055 Sindi Sun, 02 May 2010 17:58:16 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-19055 Wow! Thanks all. I have been searching for these answers for years. I was beginning to think that I just had an over-active mind. Sindi Wow! Thanks all. I have been searching for these answers for years. I was beginning to think that I just had an over-active mind. Sindi

]]> By: Andrea Hess http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-17349 Andrea Hess Tue, 13 Apr 2010 12:37:34 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-17349 Hi Sophia, There's a saying "what you resist, persists." Avoidance can be another form of resistance ... she may well thrive on the discomfort you feel when she interacts with you. The trick is to stay energetically neutral or at peace while you interact. That totally deflates the energetic dynamic, and she'll move on. Hi Sophia,

There’s a saying “what you resist, persists.” Avoidance can be another form of resistance … she may well thrive on the discomfort you feel when she interacts with you. The trick is to stay energetically neutral or at peace while you interact. That totally deflates the energetic dynamic, and she’ll move on.

]]> By: Sophia http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-17348 Sophia Tue, 13 Apr 2010 11:48:18 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-17348 Hi Andrea, what I read today is very helpful. However, how do you deal with somepne who will purposefully try to get in your way or try to harm or harras you because you are not allowing them to absorb your positve energy in order to make them selves feel better. I have been polite and avoiding one co-wrker for months. Trying to have anything to do with her as little as possible. I do not know why she do not live me alone and try to put in to trouble. Hi Andrea, what I read today is very helpful. However, how do you deal with somepne who will purposefully try to get in your way or try to harm or harras you because you are not allowing them to absorb your positve energy in order to make them selves feel better. I have been polite and avoiding one co-wrker for months. Trying to have anything to do with her as little as possible. I do not know why she do not live me alone and try to put in to trouble.

]]> By: Andrea Hess http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-16789 Andrea Hess Mon, 01 Mar 2010 17:32:17 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-16789 Hi Erika - you know, we're not here to be miserable and we can choose to learn our lessons in a positive, uplifting way!!! Struggle is optional! So I don't think we ever HAVE to "stick it out" with a negative lesson or person. There's better ways to learn and grow! Blessings, Andrea Hi Erika – you know, we’re not here to be miserable and we can choose to learn our lessons in a positive, uplifting way!!! Struggle is optional! So I don’t think we ever HAVE to “stick it out” with a negative lesson or person. There’s better ways to learn and grow!

Blessings,
Andrea

]]> By: erika http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-16787 erika Mon, 01 Mar 2010 03:12:06 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-16787 Hi Andrea (and everyone) - I found this site and article after searching how to protect oneself from negative people. I really like your perspective re: not givng them energy by needing "protection". I have a somewhat specific question, and although I know you may not be able to answer I thought perhaps others here may have some insight. I have always felt that people who affect me strongly - positively or negatively - are here (in my life) for a reason, to help me learn a lesson. Sometimes I figure it out...but sometimes I can't decide if I am supposed to stick it out and learn how to handle them or put my foot down (with myself as much as with them) and get out of the situation. One in particular right now is very difficult to figure out and could have a significant impact on my future either way.I guess what I am asking is how do we tell if something/someone is a lesson to stick with or to walk away from (which sometimes requires learning to have enough self-respect and faith in life to walk away).Is it ever right to stay in a siutation with a very negative person (not necessarily a negative soul, but someone so mired in their own issues they only have negative energy emanating from them - and make everyone else miserable to boot) Right now I really am stuck...any insight anyone here has is very much appreciated. Thank you! :) Hi Andrea (and everyone) – I found this site and article after searching how to protect oneself from negative people. I really like your perspective re: not givng them energy by needing “protection”. I have a somewhat specific question, and although I know you may not be able to answer I thought perhaps others here may have some insight. I have always felt that people who affect me strongly – positively or negatively – are here (in my life) for a reason, to help me learn a lesson. Sometimes I figure it out…but sometimes I can’t decide if I am supposed to stick it out and learn how to handle them or put my foot down (with myself as much as with them) and get out of the situation. One in particular right now is very difficult to figure out and could have a significant impact on my future either way.I guess what I am asking is how do we tell if something/someone is a lesson to stick with or to walk away from (which sometimes requires learning to have enough self-respect and faith in life to walk away).Is it ever right to stay in a siutation with a very negative person (not necessarily a negative soul, but someone so mired in their own issues they only have negative energy emanating from them – and make everyone else miserable to boot) Right now I really am stuck…any insight anyone here has is very much appreciated. Thank you! :)

]]> By: viraj http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-16756 viraj Thu, 25 Feb 2010 17:41:49 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-16756 Hi Andrea! This is an excellent article I have ever read. I got many tips to tackle negative people and negativity within self. in that i imagined you speaking to me while reading the article. It was very effective, i felt immense love from you. You are like an angel for me. I will always follow the tips given by you to tackle negativity and negative people, infact I have already started doing that. Thank You Viraj Hi Andrea!
This is an excellent article I have ever read. I got many tips to tackle negative people and negativity within self. in that i imagined you speaking to me while reading the article. It was very effective, i felt immense love from you. You are like an angel for me. I will always follow the tips given by you to tackle negativity and negative people, infact I have already started doing that.
Thank You

Viraj

]]> By: getoverit http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-16040 getoverit Mon, 18 Jan 2010 02:06:34 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-16040 Just wanted to say this thread has been such a blessing for me. i was just about to give up and remove myself from my roommate who is the most negative person i have ever encountered. i was finding myself worrying about her worrying and making herself sick. she gets very angry and defense with me if i try to ask her about her constant negativity or if i try to show her the good in a situation, she will listen and agree, but as soon as i shut up she starts in on her pity party, "i just try to do the best i can, i try to say the right things, all my life i have had to struggle with things, i've been thru this and that and everything in between" she does not communicate with her family, and i am starting to see some of the reasons why. she does not have any close friends besides me, and i am also understandng why that is as well. right now she is in the hospital, even though she is making progress, she still complains about minor things, hell she almost died but she worries that she has to get a needle placed under her skin in order to help her continue to survive. it is going to keep you alive for Gods sake!!!!so many people tell her how she should see the positive side of things but she continues to go back to the negativity. it is wearing on me emotionally and physically. however with the techniques discussed here about not feeding into those negative thoughts, comments and episodes, i am willing to try these options to see if i can deal with this better. so thank you for sharing your stories, you have truly blessed me. Just wanted to say this thread has been such a blessing for me. i was just about to give up and remove myself from my roommate who is the most negative person i have ever encountered. i was finding myself worrying about her worrying and making herself sick. she gets very angry and defense with me if i try to ask her about her constant negativity or if i try to show her the good in a situation, she will listen and agree, but as soon as i shut up she starts in on her pity party, “i just try to do the best i can, i try to say the right things, all my life i have had to struggle with things, i’ve been thru this and that and everything in between” she does not communicate with her family, and i am starting to see some of the reasons why. she does not have any close friends besides me, and i am also understandng why that is as well. right now she is in the hospital, even though she is making progress, she still complains about minor things, hell she almost died but she worries that she has to get a needle placed under her skin in order to help her continue to survive. it is going to keep you alive for Gods sake!!!!so many people tell her how she should see the positive side of things but she continues to go back to the negativity. it is wearing on me emotionally and physically. however with the techniques discussed here about not feeding into those negative thoughts, comments and episodes, i am willing to try these options to see if i can deal with this better. so thank you for sharing your stories, you have truly blessed me.

]]> By: Tammy http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-14690 Tammy Sun, 15 Nov 2009 22:22:20 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-14690 I just found this post and it's been helpful. I work with an individual that is constantly gossiping to other employees, talking loudly and just plain out being loud. I'm the type of person that doesn't want to get in the middle of peoples issues. I'm not perfect by no means. I have mentioned to her that I don't like it when she talks loud and yells out the office door. It seems like the more I try to ignore her, the louder she gets. I've spoke to our supervisor before, but nothing has been done. I get so stressed about this. Sometimes, I put my headphones on to drown out the noise and have even purchased a noise machine, but it just seems to make her talk louder. Is there anything you can think of that I can do to help take care of this situation? I'd really appreciate any advice you can give me. I just found this post and it’s been helpful. I work with an individual that is constantly gossiping to other employees, talking loudly and just plain out being loud. I’m the type of person that doesn’t want to get in the middle of peoples issues. I’m not perfect by no means. I have mentioned to her that I don’t like it when she talks loud and yells out the office door. It seems like the more I try to ignore her, the louder she gets. I’ve spoke to our supervisor before, but nothing has been done. I get so stressed about this. Sometimes, I put my headphones on to drown out the noise and have even purchased a noise machine, but it just seems to make her talk louder. Is there anything you can think of that I can do to help take care of this situation? I’d really appreciate any advice you can give me.

]]> By: susan http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-14632 susan Thu, 12 Nov 2009 01:44:38 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-14632 Well, I'm going to try to ignore my crazy uncle, but its kind of hard to do when you're being accused of things you haven't done. I have to defend myself if I'm innocent. Yes I live with a crazy uncle and grandmother and they are both negative people, but my uncle is out to hurt me and make me miserable. He is very argumentative with me and accuses me of things, I haven't done. My only option is move out as soon as I can because these people will never change and my sanity is starting to get affected. When I get my income tax refund in Feb. of 2010, I'm out!!!!!! Well, I’m going to try to ignore my crazy uncle, but its kind of hard to do when you’re being accused of things you haven’t done. I have to defend myself if I’m innocent. Yes I live with a crazy uncle and grandmother and they are both negative people, but my uncle is out to hurt me and make me miserable. He is very argumentative with me and accuses me of things, I haven’t done. My only option is move out as soon as I can because these people will never change and my sanity is starting to get affected. When I get my income tax refund in Feb. of 2010, I’m out!!!!!!

]]> By: Phil http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-10875 Phil Sun, 26 Apr 2009 09:40:33 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-10875 Hello from England. As a Usui and Karuna Reiki master, I'd just like to say how powerful I found your article as these passive aggressive energy vampires have often plagued my life. The key is to starve them of psychic (i.e. mental/emtional/thought) attention and then they really do disappear from your life in the most amazing ways. Protecting yourself is a kind of resistance which they feed on. Physically distance yourself if possible and/or just refuse to react to anything they say or do. Even feeling sorry for them gives energy. Do not try to help or get them out of their difficulties. Imagine their negative energy is just a wave crashing through your life, but leaving the rock which is you unchanged after it passes. As in Aikido, do not resist in any way, but turn the energy against the opponent without giving them your own energy. as you raise yourself towards the Light, the aka cords of negative energy which these people attach to you (and which you reinforce by worrying about them) are put under pressure by your ascent. Keep ascending, and ask your Guides to release the cords back to their owners with unconditional love. Then give the problem fully to your Guides and let go. I'm currently adopting this approach with three negatives, and one has finally let go and, given the fight the other two have just started with me, it shouldn't be long before the others disappear too. Good luck to everyone and deep thanks to Andrea for this article. Hello from England. As a Usui and Karuna Reiki master, I’d just like to say how powerful I found your article as these passive aggressive energy vampires have often plagued my life. The key is to starve them of psychic (i.e. mental/emtional/thought) attention and then they really do disappear from your life in the most amazing ways. Protecting yourself is a kind of resistance which they feed on. Physically distance yourself if possible and/or just refuse to react to anything they say or do. Even feeling sorry for them gives energy. Do not try to help or get them out of their difficulties. Imagine their negative energy is just a wave crashing through your life, but leaving the rock which is you unchanged after it passes. As in Aikido, do not resist in any way, but turn the energy against the opponent without giving them your own energy. as you raise yourself towards the Light, the aka cords of negative energy which these people attach to you (and which you reinforce by worrying about them) are put under pressure by your ascent. Keep ascending, and ask your Guides to release the cords back to their owners with unconditional love. Then give the problem fully to your Guides and let go. I’m currently adopting this approach with three negatives, and one has finally let go and, given the fight the other two have just started with me, it shouldn’t be long before the others disappear too. Good luck to everyone and deep thanks to Andrea for this article.

]]> By: Jalus http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-8696 Jalus Wed, 18 Mar 2009 20:00:37 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-8696 I send them Love ~ and move along. Namaste' Jalus I send them Love ~ and move along.

Namaste’
Jalus

]]> By: jam http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-5583 jam Sat, 31 Jan 2009 16:43:19 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-5583 thanks for making this gr8 blog in which people (like me) in a deep well or manhole of negetivity can see some light or hope that can remove them from this problem. reguards, JAM thanks for making this gr8 blog in which people (like me) in a deep well or manhole of negetivity can see some light or hope that can remove them from this problem.
reguards,
JAM

]]> By: Sarah http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-3058 Sarah Sat, 25 Oct 2008 23:19:09 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-3058 I seem to attract quite a bit of jealousy or resentment from other people, particularly other women, and maybe very occasionally, men. I don't know what sparks it since I am no great beauty. The latest is a chechout assistant in the local supermarket where I live. Her seeming hatred of me is so extreme it's almost embarrassing. She was very aggressive and offhanded but now I no longer approach her checkout, she just completely ignores me (or pretends to.) But out of the corner of my eye, I know when she's not dealing with a customer, she just sits there glaring at me with a look of pure hate. Your article has helped me but I do not understand how I can 'disallow' someone's negativity from reaching me. I can only think of how to protect myself when I am in there. Thank you so much anyway. I shall place this on my 'Favourites' menu so I can read it again. Kind regards, Sue. I seem to attract quite a bit of jealousy or resentment from other people, particularly other women, and maybe very occasionally, men.
I don’t know what sparks it since I am no great beauty.

The latest is a chechout assistant in the local supermarket where I live. Her seeming hatred of me is so extreme it’s almost embarrassing. She was very aggressive and offhanded but now I no longer approach her checkout, she just completely ignores me (or pretends to.) But out of the corner of my eye, I know when she’s not dealing with a customer, she just sits there glaring at me with a look of pure hate.
Your article has helped me but I do not understand how I can ‘disallow’ someone’s negativity from reaching me. I can only think of how to protect myself when I am in there.
Thank you so much anyway. I shall place this on my ‘Favourites’ menu so I can read it again.

Kind regards, Sue.

]]> By: Andrea Hess http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1825 Andrea Hess Fri, 20 Jun 2008 01:00:57 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-1825 Patricia, I love that process to determine if the pain is ours or someone else's! That one is new to me, and sparked a lot of thought - thank you for sharing it here! Blessings, Andrea Patricia, I love that process to determine if the pain is ours or someone else’s! That one is new to me, and sparked a lot of thought – thank you for sharing it here!

Blessings,
Andrea

]]> By: Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker http://www.empoweredsoul.com/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/comment-page-1/#comment-1818 Patricia - Spiritual Journey Of A Lightworker Thu, 19 Jun 2008 19:26:11 +0000 http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/2008/03/27/how-to-deal-with-negative-people/#comment-1818 Pat, what you described is the difference between denial (hoping if you leave it alone and it will quit bothering you) and detachment (letting go of what has been bothering you whether the issue is still there or not, no longer being affected by it). It took me 10 years of cutting myself off from my dad's family to realize that my incest issues weren't going away just because I was ignoring them by having no contact with family. That 10 years just added more layers of hurt that I had to deal with and it also cut me off from the love of aunts and uncles and grandparents that might would have helped. The mind goes to great lengths to not deal with its own pain. A friend tells me when I have a headache to put my hand in front of the area where the pain is and to ask, "Is this mine or does it belong to someone else?" As lightworkers we often knowingly and sometimes unknowingly take on the pain of others, especially those we love. If it isn't your pain, give it back. Andrea, this is a great article with lots of ideas that makes me think things anew. Thanks. Pat, what you described is the difference between denial (hoping if you leave it alone and it will quit bothering you) and detachment (letting go of what has been bothering you whether the issue is still there or not, no longer being affected by it). It took me 10 years of cutting myself off from my dad’s family to realize that my incest issues weren’t going away just because I was ignoring them by having no contact with family. That 10 years just added more layers of hurt that I had to deal with and it also cut me off from the love of aunts and uncles and grandparents that might would have helped. The mind goes to great lengths to not deal with its own pain.

A friend tells me when I have a headache to put my hand in front of the area where the pain is and to ask, “Is this mine or does it belong to someone else?” As lightworkers we often knowingly and sometimes unknowingly take on the pain of others, especially those we love. If it isn’t your pain, give it back.

Andrea, this is a great article with lots of ideas that makes me think things anew. Thanks.

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