Self-study, in many ways, can be comparatively easy, because we have access to far more information. I would invite you to learn how to dowse or create some other way to gain perspective on the energetics of situations and people. That way, you have a frame of reference to work within.

Thank you so much for this wonderful comment! I think many Lightworkers deal with this issue – we’re so willing to work on ourselves, but we can’t do it all on behalf of everyone else.

Blessings,
Andrea

This is just a shining example of the clues we’re given as to what we really need right now.

This topic is percolating into additional ideas in my little brain … stay tuned! Thanks for adding this great example (and the conclusion) to this discussion, I really appreciate it!

Blessings,
Andrea

I thought about your response to my query, and while there are connections I’m moving on from… it didn’t resonate as the reason behind my lost chargers.

But it did create that ‘a-ha’ moment that brought the unconscious into consciousness – as I now have three chargers, and two batteries, for my one cellphone, it’s like there is no excuse now for me NOT making connections with people, whether they be friends or family.

In fact, I’ve just signed up to a plan that allows unlimited phone calls between family members.

So by paying attention to my unconscious actions, I can see that I need to consciously nuture my connections to other people, especially those close to me.

Thanks for helping me understand this!

Love your blog,
KL

I’ve always loved that definition of insanity – it’s so true. I think we’re all collectively getting better at this. At least, I like to hope so!

Blessings,
Andrea

For me, consciously choosing to be unconscious many times has to do with timing. I don’t think that I am ready to deal with whatever the issue is so I stall thinking that will make the situation different or make me stronger. The reality is it does neither. Life just makes the challenges bigger to get your attention. Do you think one of these days we will wake up and be smarter about all of this?

Al-Anon teaches that the definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. The change doesn’t come until we change.

Bente – Thank you! I think that taking constant inventory of what is working and what isn’t, especially in the small things, is a great way of being proactive, before these issues snowball into something larger. I’m so glad you’re commenting here and can’t wait for your new website!

Tom – You bring up a really great point. Sometimes we’re consciously choosing unconsciousness, in a kind of “I’ll deal with it later” attitude! We get the nagging little feelings of “this isn’t working” and because we know of them, we do feel comfortable putting them aside. So maybe a little bit of consciousness lulls us into a false sense of control?

Love your response to the challenge questions, too. We do like to be in charge of when we undergo the massive changes and transformations that need to happen. And, I think, if we have that little bit of consciousness, we can make that decision – as long as we do make it and not put it off forever.

KL – Great example, thank you for sharing it here! So my question would be – what else are you trying to leave behind? Or worried about leaving behind? Your cell phone is about staying in touch, but the energy may be running out of those connections you’re working to uphold. Maybe you feel that you “should” recharge (aha!) those connections, but there’s a part of you telling you it’s time to let them go?

That’s my 1 cent worth!

Thank you so much for all these wonderful comments!

Blessings,
Andrea

One incident that has me shaking my head is that I have recently repeatedly left my phone charger behind in various locations. As I’ve been on the move a lot lately, up and down the country twice, this has often been a huge inconvenience. I’ve had to buy not one new charger, but two! And now own three!

I’m usually very organised and together, and never lose keys, wallet or my phone…

But I haven’t yet been able to figure out why I’m unconsciously leaving my charger behind everywhere…

Any thoughts?

ReddyK – you’re too kind (blush!). I agree that waking up allows us to live more fully – but sometimes there are also unpleasant issues to be confronted, and moving through those can seem more painful than putting up with low-level degrees of lasting suffering. I say, let’s rip of the band-aids (or the blind-folds) and get on with life! Thank you as always for your support!

Slade – Thank you so much for so beautifully illustrating what I was getting at! I agree that we cannot separate one area of our life from another – as if one issue has nothing to do with anything else – and adopt a perspective of totality and wholeness towards ourselves. Love the metaphor of a cancer that ripples throughout the system! Thank you!

Blessings,
Andrea

Thus sometimes we unconsciously choose to remain in the dark and other times we are more aware of our chosen indecision. So a kind of undemonstrated confidence develops. Since we know we can end the relationship when we’re ready, we stay safely miserable much longer than any fully aware person would endure.

I also like your challenge questions. What is the scariest, most frightening change that you could imagine making in your life? Often my answer to that question is to face the inevitable much sooner than I feel ready to.

You’ve said it. It’s crazy, and at the same time so understandable, how we ignore what is right in front of us. I’ve seen people get sick (sometimes seriously) to avoid facing unfulfilling job or relationship. Or other kinds of crisis like getting into debt, cheating, etc. People . . . including myself . . .

It takes time and practice to get back to the original wise self I am in the core, I guess.