How much time do you spend making decisions that lie in the future? Just last week, I found myself lying in bed, trying to plan the next work week. I could not decide what to focus on – which of my projects needed to take priority? As I wrestled with how to allocate my time, it dawned on me: This was not a decision that was available to me yet. Over the course of the weekend, situations would shift and change. Any choices I made now would only have to be reconsidered Monday morning.
Sometimes, we try to gain a sense of control or security by making decisions that are not presently available to us. A clear sign that we are trying to make an unavailable decision is feeling overwhelmed, torn, and confused. We simply do not have all the information necessary to make our choice. This sort of pre-emptive planning takes us out of the present moment, into a future that is not yet a reality.
If you don’t know whether to sign up for a workshop, and the registration deadline isn’t for another two weeks, then maybe this is a decisions that is not available to you yet. A lot can happen in two weeks. Perhaps an alternative will show up. Perhaps a financial or family situation will arise that will make attending the workshop difficult. Perhaps in two weeks, the trouble and expense of this workshop will feel completely unnecessary to you. Perhaps, in a week, the decision will make itself.
None of us want to be indecisive. Sometimes, however, we rush into a choice so that we can check it off our “to do†list. We make a quick decision for the sake of the decision itself. Two weeks later, we find ourselves packing for our workshop, completely lacking in excitement over the upcoming experience.
Give yourself permission to wait until a choice is truly upon you before you make up your mind. This has nothing to do with procrastination. Sometimes we can plan our family vacation in six months with no hesitation whatsoever. But if you feel conflict over a decision that truly does not need to be made yet, allow the situation to unfold. Instead of making a decision, set an intention. What are you hoping to receive from this decision? As you clarify your intent, the necessary information will flow into your life, and your choices will become effortless, in their own time.
Blessings,
Andrea
This post has been included in Be Conscious Now’s Carnival of Truth #3.Â
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